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# Tia Slightham

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- [Allen](https://tiaslightham.com/allen/) - View this post on Instagram A post shared by Tia Slightham - Parent Coach (@tiaparentingcoach)
- [Tired of Saying “NO” to Your Kids All Day](https://tiaslightham.com/tired-of-saying-no-to-your-kids-all-day/) - Today we are going to break down how simple communication shifts can help encourage cooperation and listening! An easy way to stop the power struggles and the never-ending “no, no, no!” A simple shift in language can encourage cooperation The hardest thing about parenting is understanding that you’re not supposed to have it all figured
- [How Do I Avoid Raising An Entitled Child](https://tiaslightham.com/how-do-i-avoid-raising-an-entitled-child/) - Holiday Gift Giving Overwhelm Tis’ the season of gift giving, gift asking and gift receiving. Does it feel like your kids just want, want, want. Tis’ the season for your kids to be ramped up on sugar highs, late nights and serious anticipation for the day their wish lists become reality! When it comes
- [What To Do When Your Toddler Won’t Poop On The Potty](https://tiaslightham.com/what-to-do-when-your-toddler-wont-poop-on-the-potty/) - When your toddler refuses to poop on the potty So you’ve finally had success with the first step of toilet training. Your little one happily goes pee in the potty, wipes, pulls his/her pants back on and is accident from 90% of the time! You feel a huge sigh of relief as you begin to
- [How to Enjoy Parenting [without yelling, anger or guilt]](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-enjoy-parenting-without-yelling-anger-or-guilt/) - Allison was feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and defeated by her toddler. She told me: "I feel sad that I'm not enjoying my daughter and I feel guilty for having these feelings." Allison wanted to know how to fix things. To make life easier with her toddler. She wanted to know how to make parenting easier. After
- [Are You a Helicopter or a Snowplow Parent?](https://tiaslightham.com/are-you-a-helicopter-or-a-snowplow-parent/) - Have you ever thought about what kind of parent you are? Are you a helicopter parent or a snowplow parent? Raising kids is no easy feat. It's not for the light hearted or whimps. It takes strength, courage, bravery, time, patience and unconditional love, it's the real deal. But, raising kids is nothing like it
- [How to Set Boundaries - 3 Tips To Set Clear Limits](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-set-boundaries-3-tips-to-set-clear-limits/) - One of the hardest things I hear from parents I consult with is that they aren't enjoying parenting. They've reached a place where nothing they do works, they are tired of the battle and they feel hopeless. The reason parents aren't enjoying their kids or parenting, is often because they lack clear limits. It's hard
- [How to Deal with Toddler Terror Attacks Podcast with Tia Slightham](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-deal-with-toddler-terror-attacks-podcast-with-tia-slightham/) - Welcome to Season 2 of Moms That Say F*ck, I sit down with Alana and Dr. Dina Kulik and we talk about all do's and don'ts of successful, stress-free parenting. LISTEN TO THE EPISODE HERE! *Warning- this podcast has a lot of F bombs in it. If you are around young children, we suggest headphones.*
- [Validate Your Child’s Feelings](https://tiaslightham.com/validate-your-childs-feelings/) - Validating Your Child's Feelings What Does It Mean To Validate Feelings? “Validating a child means letting them share their thoughts and feelings without judgment, criticizing, ridiculing or abandoning them.” Says, Dr. Marsha Linehan, Ph.D., clinical psychologist Think about those times when your toddler or child just goes ballistic. Maybe they woke up and just can’t
- [How To Teach Your Child Respect](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-teach-your-child-respect/) - WHO SAID PARENTING WOULD BE EASY? No one said parenting was going to be easy, but I also feel like no one warned us for what was actually coming. There was no mention of what you would really have to do as parents to teach your child respect as they grow. From the second your
- [How To Get Your Kids To Sleep [Battle Free Bedtimes]](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-get-your-kids-to-sleep-battle-free-bedtimes/) - What if you could get your kids to sleep and have battle free bedtimes? Let's take a look at a classic (common) bedtime scenario that's taking place nightly across the world... My kids always get wild right before bed It’s once again time for your kids to go upstairs and start getting ready for bed.
- [How To Be An Effective Parent In 2020](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-be-an-effective-parent-in-2020/) - Happy New Year - [Not so happy resolutions] Another year has passed and it's that time of year where everyone is talking about making new year's resolutions. I have always had a bitter-sweet feeling about resolutions. On one hand, it's great because it helps us to focus on bettering ourselves and improving in areas we've
- [Are Toddler Tantrums Normal [strategies to stop tantrums]](https://tiaslightham.com/are-toddler-tantrums-normal-strategies-to-stop-tantrums/) - Tantrums at a glance What are tantrums? How to avoid tantrums Strategies for tantrums What are tantrums Tantrums are a very typical behavior for toddlers. Most of the time, by the time children reach pre-school years, tantrums will subside. So, if you're wondering whether or not your toddler's tantrums or "normal," the answer is yes!
- [What Parenting Style Am I?](https://tiaslightham.com/what-parenting-style-am-i/) - What Parenting Style Am I? There are 3 major parenting styles and each one will directly affect your child's development and behavior in a different way. As parents, it's your job to help your child to grow, flourish and succeed, but it's not always easy to do when you don't know how to respond to
- [How to Manage Your Emotions With a Strong-Willed Child](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-manage-your-emotions-with-a-strong-willed-child/) - Did just the title of this post cause your heart rate to speed and armpits to sweat? If so, you're not alone! Let me tell you a little story, it wasn't long ago that I was walking the grocery isle (not right now as I'm home like you in Covid-isolation) when I witnessed a mother
- [How to Get Alone Time with Kids During Covid](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-get-alone-time-with-kids-during-covid/) - In Can I just have one minute to myself, to pee, to shower or maybe just breathe? Why are my kids constantly clinging to me, whining, begging me to play with them. "Watch this mommy. Do this mommy. Come here mommy." HELP! Sound familiar? Help, I need a break from my family! I want you
- [I Feel Like I'm Failing As a Parent](https://tiaslightham.com/i-feel-like-im-failing-as-a-parent/) - "I feel like a terrible mom. I'm not a present wife. I am not being a good friend and I'm doing my job half-ass." Just yesterday I was on Discovery Call with a mother who had hit her wall. She was feeling so down about who she was and she was putting so much pressure
- [Why Time-Outs Don't Work](https://tiaslightham.com/why-time-outs-dont-work/) - Do you keep asking yourself; why time-outs don't work? Does it feel like not matter what you do, your kids just won't listen? You've put them in time-out and they either scream, cry or maybe even laugh? All to get out of time-out and do it all again? Cue exhausted parents who are sick and
- [Why Kids Don't Listen](https://tiaslightham.com/why-kids-dont-listen/) - Kids don't listen for a reason It’s important to fully understand WHY your child refuses to listen or WHY your child doesn’t hear you, before we can move into the how, which are the tactics to resolve this issue. Parents are often desperate for all the how’s ; how to get my kids to listen,
- [How to Talk to Kids about Tragedy](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-tragedy/) - How to talk to kids about tragedy When tragedies occur, whether it’s in the world such as a mass shooting or terrorist attack or within your family such as death or illness, it can be very difficult to talk to your child about what’s happened. It’s hard to know when you should talk to your
- [4 Reasons Why Kids Misbehave](https://tiaslightham.com/4-reasons-why-kids-misbehave/) - All kids misbehave for a reason. There are 4 deep rooted reasons why kids misbehave. Let's face it, when your kids misbehave it's annoying, frustrating, exhausting, overwhelming and can make you feel like losing your mind. Am I right? Here's the thing, it's not just to annoy you or take you to the end of
- [How to Get Your Kids to Help Out Around the House](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-get-your-kids-to-help-out-around-the-house/) - Does it feel like your kids won't do anything around the house? It's been a long day, your rushing to pick your kids up from school, just to rush to get home so you can rush to get dinner on the table, tidy up and rush to get your kids to bed. It's just one
- [How old Does My Child Have to be to....](https://tiaslightham.com/how-old-does-my-child-have-to-be-to/) - It's the end of the day and it seems like every toy, crayon, playdough container and puzzle piece is left splattered on the floor. You look around and sigh deeply with feelings of frustration, exhaustion and annoyance. "Why do I always have to clean up after everyone? Why is it my responsibility?" I'm feeling all
- [What to Say to Your Kids When...](https://tiaslightham.com/what-to-say-to-your-kids-when/) - Knowing what to say to your kids and when to say it can sometimes feel like traveling unknown waters. You might feel like you're trying to say the right things to your kids in the right moment, but it all just goes completely wrong. You think you're saying one thing, your child hears another. You've
- [Learn To Manage Morning Chaos](https://tiaslightham.com/learn-to-manage-morning-chaos/) - Learn To Manage Morning Chaos TAKE A LOOK AT A TYPICAL MORNING Here's a typical morning that I am sure most of you, if not all of you, can relate to. To set the stage, it’s a school day around 8am. You need to be out of the house in the next 10 minutes
- [Children's Books; a Way to Help Kids](https://tiaslightham.com/childrens-books-a-way-to-help-kids/) - Let's face it, growing is hard to do! Our kids are trying to navigate this world and it's no easy task. What if there was a way to help your kids work through all the obstacles life throws them? How about being able to guide them through challenges and unwanted behaviors with a simple tool?
- [How to Get Your Toddler to Sleep Alone](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-get-your-toddler-to-sleep-alone/) - Help! My toddler won't sleep alone and I can't take it another night! I can't tell you the number of times this phrase rings through the phone line as parents reach out in desperation for sleep help. The good news is you're not alone. Hundreds of families contact me each year, desperate to get their
- [How to Get a Toddler to Sleep [3 Simple Tips]](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-get-a-toddler-to-sleep-3-simple-tips/) - What if I told you that 3 tips could help get your toddler to sleep? Well, just keep on reading because that’s exactly what I am going to discuss with you today! Common toddler bedtime challenges Toddler bedtime challenges are one of the biggest frustrations for parents. Whether it’s dealing nightly at bedtime with: Stalling
- [The Best Way To Get Your Kids To Cooperate](https://tiaslightham.com/the-best-way-to-get-your-kids-to-cooperate/) - Tis' The Season For Wild and Crazy Kids (TRUE or FALSE)!! Well, it's that time of year again that most parents have learned to stress about. All the holiday parties, planning, shopping, cooking, baking, hosting, wrapping, decorating, running around and the never-ending lists! Sound about right? BUT, on the other hand it's one of my
- [SAVE 50% on ALL Parenting Guides with BLACK2019](https://tiaslightham.com/save-50-on-all-parenting-guides-with-black2019/) - Save 50% on ALL PRODUCTS. There's no reason to continue battling each day with your kids. All parents struggle, it's a fact because we are human. That's not the problem, but rather the problem is when you don't find solutions that work so you can finally stop struggling and enjoy your kids! I want you
- [Behavior and Parenting go Hand in Hand](https://tiaslightham.com/behavior-and-parenting-go-hand-in-hand/) - Did you know that your parenting and your kid’s behavior go hand in hand? To Begin to understand your child's behavior you need to take a close look at your parenting. As generations pass parenting styles must shift as well. Think back to when you were a kid; no Ipads or traveling technology like cell
- [2 Choices Lets Your Toddler Feel They Are In Control](https://tiaslightham.com/2-choices-lets-your-toddler-feel-they-are-in-control/) - as a parent we want our day to go a certain way and our kids to act a certain way. this doesn't always go as planned, as we all know toddlers have a mind of their own. they are learning to become independent thinkers and developing into their own little person. sometimes this makes our life a bit more difficult, as what they want isn't always what we want. so instead of battling it out with them all day long, remember these two things; set your boundaries and give choices!!
- [How To Get A Toddler To Sleep….Easily! [In Two Weeks or Less]](https://tiaslightham.com/get-your-toddler-to-sleep-easily-in-two-weeks-or-less/) - Get Your Toddler To Sleep Easily Bedtime can be a very stressful time for parents if your toddler or child are resisting. Whether your toddler is refusing to listen, pulling out all the stops to avoid going to bed or they need you to soothe them to sleep, it can cause a lot of anxiety.
- [Avoid Halloween Candy Battles](https://tiaslightham.com/avoid-halloween-candy-battles/) - Avoid Halloween Candy Battles It's that time of year again when your kids are getting super pumped, overly excited and ramped to the nines! Halloween is just around the corner and before you know it there will be an abundance of candy to add to the already formed craze. Once the candy enters your home
- [How To Transition Your Kids To Daylight Savings](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-transition-your-kids-to-daylight-savings/) - Transition Your Kids To Daylight Savings I don’t know about you, but I find daylight savings to be the biggest pain in the a**! It’s hard enough for adults to make this time adjustment, but throwing kids into the mix creates a whole other warzone! This year, I want you to take a deep breath,
- [Let Go of Parenting Guilt; You Are Enough](https://tiaslightham.com/let-go-of-parenting-guilt-you-are-enough/) - Let Go of Parenting Guilt; You are Enough I sometimes ask myself, "Am I doing enough? Am I doing enough for my kids or does my work get in the way of being there for them? Do I ever really in the present moment at work or home? Or am I living with one foot
- [Why Do Kids Push Boundaries](https://tiaslightham.com/why-do-kids-push-boundaries/) - Why Kids Push Boundaries Do you ever find yourself asking, “Why in the hell do my kids have to push and push me to brink?” What if I told you that it’s your child’s duty to push you and boundaries! Say what? I know, it sounds crazy and I wish I had a better reason
- [Is My Child Getting Enough Sleep At Night](https://tiaslightham.com/is-my-child-getting-enough-sleep-at-night/) - Do you know if your child is getting enough sleep at night? How do you determine if your kids are sleeping enough at night? Do you follow a sleep recommendation chart? Or do you judge based on your child’s behavior? Do you compare sleep schedules with other parents and then feel guilty that yours isn’t
- [What To Do When Your Kids Refuse To Listen](https://tiaslightham.com/what-to-do-when-your-kids-refuse-to-listen/) - Have you ever been in the heat of the moment when you’ve asked your son/daughter to do something and they flat out refuse to listen? They refuse to cooperate or do what you need them to do? If you can relate than I bet you’re starting to sweat right about now. Your heart is pounding
- [Training Up Front: A Key Parenting Concept](https://tiaslightham.com/training-up-front-a-key-parenting-concept/) - “Take Time For Training” Training up front is a key concept for easier parenting. Typically this concept gets overlooked or swept under the rug. The phrase “take time for training,” was spoken by Dr. Rudolf Dreikurs in his book, Children: The Challenge. I use this phrase repeatedly in my practice, as it’s one of the
- [Guest Interview: Using Charts to Help Your Kids](https://tiaslightham.com/guest-interview-using-charts-to-help-your-kids/)
- [The Summertime Balancing Act](https://tiaslightham.com/summertime-juggle/) - 'Tis the season for kids to be out of school, the long summer stretched out ahead. While they are filled with the joy of warm summer days, playdates, bike riding, freezies and swimming, we mompreneurs are desperately trying to manage all of the things that keep our families and our business' running smoothly. Just listing off the responsibilities you're about
- [Why Parenting Is So Hard](https://tiaslightham.com/why-parenting-is-so-hard/) - Why Is Parenting So Hard? Parenting is often referred to as “the toughest job you’ll ever do!’ Although this statement definitely has some truth, it also doesn’t have to be so darn hard. There are a few factors that go into parenting, which tend to lead us down the path of difficult parenting. Why Is
- [Social Media Stop Judging My Parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/social-media-stop-judging-my-parenting/) - 1 Week Social Media Challenge: Join Me And Get A Free Parenting Guide of Your Choice I FEEL JUDGED AS A PARENT Parenting is a tough job, there’s no doubt about it. As parents, you often feel guilty and beat yourself. You are constantly judging yourself. Therefore, the last thing you need is to be
- [Fix Your Toddler's Mealtime Tantrums](https://tiaslightham.com/fix-your-toddlers-mealtime-tantrums/) - Fix Your Toddler's Mealtime Tantrums DO YOU STRUGGLE AT MEALTIMES WITH YOUR CHILD? This week, we are discussing Joan's, a Toronto based parent, struggle with her toddler at mealtimes. She's currently a client of mine. but a few weeks back when she originally reached out to book a consult call, she was desperate to stop
- [Parenting Just Got Easier!](https://tiaslightham.com/parenting-just-got-easier/) - Parenting Just Got Easier Parenting isn’t something we are taught. There isn’t a class you take when you decide to become a parent that teaches you everything you need to know. Instead, you are thrown into parenting blindly. You are left to figure it out as you go and sometimes when you are in the
- [Are Your Child's Outbursts Tantrums OR Meltdowns: Learn The Difference](https://tiaslightham.com/are-your-childs-outbursts-tantrums-or-meltdowns-learn-the-difference/) - When your child breaks out into a crazy, uncontrollable cry, feet stomping, ear-piercing screaming fit, parents often are unsure why it's happening or what to do. To find out why, we first have to know are your child's outbursts tantrums or meltdowns? Let's do that now so we can get into the good stuff: what
- [Kids Forgetting Everything?](https://tiaslightham.com/kids-forgetting-everything/) - How Can I Help My Forgetful Child? Are your kids forgetting everything? Does it seem as though your child can't remember a single thing? They forget to flush the toilet, pack their lunch or do their chores? If you have a child, aged two years and up, and you find yourself reminding, reminding, reminding, then
- [STOP WHINING](https://tiaslightham.com/stop-whining/) - Why Do Kids Constantly Whine? Why do kids whine before bed, whine to get something they want, or just plain old whine as a from of talking? Whining is one of the most frustrating things that parents cope with. Sometimes it feels like no matter what they do, their kids won't stop whining. Leaving parents
- [3 Steps To Help Your Baby Sleep Through The Night](https://tiaslightham.com/3-steps-to-help-your-baby-sleep-through-the-night/) - 3 Steps To Help Your Baby Sleep Through The Night Can your baby actually sleep through the night by 12 weeks? The answer is YES! There are moments during the "newborn phase" where you may ask yourself repeatedly..."will I ever get a full night's sleep?" You are not alone and almost everyone feels the heavy
- [Parenting Can Be Your Success Story](https://tiaslightham.com/parenting-can-be-your-success-story/) - Parenting Can Be Your Success Story Hi there mamas and papas! I hope you're all geared up for Halloween next week? The buzz of excitement, decorations and Halloween treats are filling our house top to bottom! Let's enjoy this time of year, but..let's not make this exciting time another excuse for our child's bad choice
- [Why Limits Are A Must For Kids](https://tiaslightham.com/why-limits-are-a-must-for-kids/) - Why Limits Are A Must For Kids? Why are limits a must for your kids? The answer to this question is two-fold. The first reason is that without set limits and boundaries your child will continue to search, push and scour to the limits. The second part to this question is that without firm limits,
- [Decrease Screen Time To Increase Brain Function](https://tiaslightham.com/decrease-screen-time-to-increase-brain-function/) - Decrease Screen Time To Increase Brain Function? Could decreased screen time help increase brain function in our kids? Technology seems to running our world today. It’s everywhere we look and everywhere we go. Our kids are bombarded with technology not only as a new world way to communicate with teachers and friends, but also in
- [Why Won't My Kids Listen?](https://tiaslightham.com/why-wont-my-kids-listen/) - Why Won't My Kids Listen? Why won’t my kids listen? This is a constant struggle for many parents. Parents bring this particular battle to me time and time again. So, why is that our kids won’t listen? Well, I am here to tell you why! There are reasons behind poor listening, but there are also
- [Failure: Your Child’s Path To Success](https://tiaslightham.com/failure-your-childs-path-to-success/) - Can Our Child's Failure Really Lead To Their Success? Who would have thought that failure could actually be a positive thing? Sure, if we want to view failure through a 'glass half empty' lense, it does feel quite negative. On the other hand, if we flip our outlook to a 'glass half full' point of
- [Parenting With Balance](https://tiaslightham.com/parenting-with-balance/) - Parenting With Balance To say that parenting is a balancing act is putting it lightly. Parenting can sometimes feel like we are walking a tight rope, hundreds of feet up in the air and at any given moment we may fall. Parenting with balance, can be achieved and it doesn't have to feel like a
- [Empower Your Child's Emotions](https://tiaslightham.com/empower-your-childs-emotions/) - Empower Your Child's Emotions Our kids are human, just like you and me, but happen to be smaller and shorter. They deserve the same respect and kindness that we desire as adults. Often times as parents we try to stump or quiet down our child's emotions, but it's important to let your child's emotions exist.
- [Reaction Free Parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/reaction-free-parenting/) - Reaction Free Parenting Why is it that when our kids do something, our first reaction is to react? Wouldn't it be nice to be able to parent reaction free? Our reactions and our kids behaviours go hand in hand. We can't control our kids and force them to behave, but we can control ourselves. We
- [Ease Your Kids Back Into School](https://tiaslightham.com/ease-your-kids-back-into-school/) - Ease Your Kids Back Into School It's that time of year again...Where commercials start advertising back to school shopping and school supplies. How did this happen and where did Summer go? I know it's only the first full week of August, but as parents, now is the time to start thinking about how to ease your
- [Tired of Your Kids Not Sleeping Through the Night?](https://tiaslightham.com/tired-of-your-kids-not-sleeping-through-the-night/) - Hey there TIRED PARENTS - This post is for you! Are any of you reading this week's post through squinted, tired eyes? Struggling to stay awake due to your kids not sleeping through the night? Maybe you have a serious case of the bedtime blues and are wishing to sleep through the night. I'm hoping
- [How To Raise Independent Well-Mannered Kids](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-raise-independent-well-mannered-kids/) - Hi Everyone! Sorry I dropped the ball and didn't get your weekly parenting tools sent last week. I was on the West Coast visiting my family and sometimes, as you all know, family just has to come first! But..I am back and here to chat with you today about what it takes to raise independent,
- [ADHD - Expert Interview Series](https://tiaslightham.com/adhd-expert-interview-series/) - Dr. Ashley Major – ADHD Expert Interview Series Dr. Ashley Major, C. Psych. (Supervised Practice) specializes in the assessment and treatment of children, adolescents, and families. Dr. Major completed both her Doctorate and Masters degrees in School and Clinical Child Psychology at the University of Toronto. She earned her Bachelor of Arts (Honours) in Psychology
- [Transitions Causing Your Child Stress?](https://tiaslightham.com/transitions-causing-your-child-stress/) - Transitions can be real toughies. What seems like a simple task, can turn into a major breakdown, tantrum, and overwhelming experience. Who knew putting your blocks away and coming to eat dinner could be such an ordeal! Why Are Transitions So Difficult For Some Children? Transitions are not always easy for your kids, even adults
- [HELP...My Child Is Super Aggressive](https://tiaslightham.com/help-my-child-is-super-aggressive/) - Is your toddler or child hitting, biting, screaming and lashing out? It seems as though they have completely and totally lost control? Have you exhausted every avenue you know to try to STOP your child's aggressive behaviour? Join the club! It's important to know that you are not alone and that there are many effective
- [Discipline IS NOT Punishment](https://tiaslightham.com/discipline-is-not-punishment/) - Did You Know That Discipline And Punishment Are NOT The Same Thing? Discipline IS NOT Punishment. This statement is 100% true and there are studies and facts to prove. This statement causes some parents to cringe, but this is because they are reading the word discipline and confusing it with the word punishment. Punishment and
- [5 Steps To STOP Bedtime Stalling](https://tiaslightham.com/5-steps-to-stop-bedtime-stalling/) - 5 Steps To STOP Bedtime Stalling Do you live with a professional bedtime staller extraordinaire? Is your toddler or child the king or queen of bedtime stalling? If you find yourself starting bedtime, and before you know it, over an hour has passed and your child is still not in bed, then I am here
- [STOP Sibling Rivalry With One Boat](https://tiaslightham.com/stop-sibling-rivalry-with-one-boat/) - Sibling Rivalry…Ugh! Why is it that our kids want to bug, bug and bug one another? Why can’t they just get along? These questions, amongst others around this topic of sibling rivalry are extremely common for all parents. If you find yourself asking these questions on a regular basis, just know that you are not
- [Fuel Your Kids With K+ Organics](https://tiaslightham.com/fuel-your-kids-with-k-organics/) - Hey there parents! This is a really exciting time for Tia Slightham - Parenting Solutions as we are introducing our new monthly Expert Interview Series. I have had the pleasure to work with child psychologists, nutritionists, eye specialists, child health advocates, and more. You can expect to see a new Expert Interview each month. Stay
- [Happy Mother's Day, Mamas!](https://tiaslightham.com/happy-mothers-day-mamas/) - Here's to a big ‘ol Happy Mother’s Day to all of you Mamas out there! Today is your day. As we focus our attention in a more self-lesly manner 364 days of the year to our family, today is your day to act selfishly. Today is all about you. It’s one day, no matter what…the
- [Top 5 Mistakes Parents Make When Sleep Training](https://tiaslightham.com/top-5-mistakes-parents-make-when-sleep-training/) - Sleep training or what I feel is better phrased as teaching your child the skills to sleep independently, can be one of the most stressful phases for parents. It's a loaded weapon for many parents. The stress they feel about the process as a whole, combined with the pressures and opinions of others, can leave
- [Stand Up To Bullying](https://tiaslightham.com/stand-up-to-bullying/) - Bullying...Where do we even begin. When I think about the word bullying I immediately tense up. My face cringes with fear and my heart breaks with sadness. Thinking about kids whom suffer day in and day out being bullied is heart wrenching. Add an extra thousand layers to this when it's your own kids or
- [Rose & Thorn - A Little Secret To Get Your Child To Open Up Big Time](https://tiaslightham.com/rose-and-thorn-the-little-secret-to-get-your-child-to-open-up-big-time/) - Why is it that it's next to impossible to get our kids to tell us stuff? When you pick your kids up from school and ask them how their day was or what they did during the day – do you get a response similar to “I don’t remember...nothing?” I am sure all parents can
- [Interview With Mosquitos](https://tiaslightham.com/interview-with-mosquitos/) - I was recently interviewed by Lisa Borden - owner and founder of Borden Communications + Design. Lisa helps entrepreneurs develop, build and soar their businesses to new heights. I have had the pleasure to work with Lisa and her team and would recommend them to anyone looking for business advice of any kind! We
- [Flour Free Banana Oat Muffins...Easy As 1, 2, 3](https://tiaslightham.com/flour-free-banana-oat-muffins-easy-as-1-2-3/) - Muffins Easy as 1, 2, 3...Blender, Bake, Wrap/Freeze! These flour-free banana oat muffins are simple to make and freeze ahead for a healthy go-to snack. As parents we strive to find unprocessed snacks that are good for our kids. On top of this, we need them to actually taste good. Well, you're in luck these
- [HELP...I Can't Stop Yelling At My Kids](https://tiaslightham.com/help-i-cant-stop-yelling-at-my-kids/) - Where do we even begin? If you are a parent who is constantly struggling with losing your cool, yelling and feeling frustrated with your kids, then listen up! First and foremost you are not alone. No one is perfect no matter how much they try to tell you they are or pretend to be. It's
- [Who’s Winning The Battle Of Tug-Of-War In Your House?](https://tiaslightham.com/202398/) - As we travel our journey of parenting we find ourselves going in and out of phases, up and down hills, and sometimes, in and out of crazy town! Parenting is definitely not all rainbows and unicorns. When the unicorns and rainbows seem nowhere to be found we are usually dealing with some of the more
- [HELP- I Need My Bed Back!](https://tiaslightham.com/help-i-need-my-bed-back/) - For some parents co-sleeping was their preference in the early stages and for others it was their survival tool. For some parents the co-sleeping meant to have an end, but somehow it just kept going. Your intentions were to have them sleep in their own beds but your kids either came sneaking back into your
- [STOP Screen Time Battles With 5 Simple Steps](https://tiaslightham.com/stop-screen-time-battles-with-5-simple-steps/) - Our kids are growing up in a different time and different world than when we grew up. The added pressures of technology bring about a whole new series of problems. Not only are we faced with trying to teach our kids technology time limitations, but we also must educate them on cyber safety and issues
- [What Parenting Struggles Are Affecting You?](https://tiaslightham.com/what-parenting-struggles-are-affecting-you/) - What parenting struggles are affecting you daily? Are you battling with your kids? Feeling exhausted and overwhelmed? Take this 10 second poll and help me determine what all of YOU want to hear from me. Click the poll link and Let's Start Talking
- [5 Ways To Help Build Your Child’s Independence](https://tiaslightham.com/five-ways-to-help-build-your-childs-independence/) - Some days as a parent, I find myself questioning whether or not I’m doing my absolute best job. Am I being patient enough? Attentive enough? Am I helping them grow into their best self? Am I succeeding as a parent, failing or falling somewhere in the middle? Then I STOP! I STOP all the questioning,
- [Top 5 Parenting Mistakes That Put Your Kids In Charge](https://tiaslightham.com/top-5-parenting-mistakes-that-put-your-kids-in-charge/) - When we find ourselves entrenched in a battle with our kids we, sometimes feel it would be easiest to just let things go. Deal with it later or sweep it under the rug. As parents, myself included, from time to time, find ourselves exhausted, overwhelmed and just plain old fed up! When we reach our
- [Happy New Year - It's 2018](https://tiaslightham.com/happy-new-year-its-2018/) - Where does the time go? How does a new year arrive when it feels as though the last one just started? Being that it's New Year's Day, this picture got me thinking about how quickly time is passing. In this photo it looks like my little men are on a skyline date (with my niece)
- [Discipline - YES PLEASE](https://tiaslightham.com/discipline-yes-please/) - This quote 100% says it all and is 100% true. It's a statement that may cause some parents to cringe, but this is because they are reading the word discipline and confusing it will punishment. Punishment and discipline ARE NOT the same thing. They actually are polar opposites of one another. Punishment is anything that
- [How To Roast Perfect Pumpkin Seeds](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-roast-perfect-pumpkin-seeds/) - Looking for a healthy fiber filled and nutrient-dense snack? Look no further! Roasted Pumpkin Seeds are simple, crunchy, healthy and tasty for the entire family. Grab a handful as you run out the door or set them out for guests! Festive and yummy all at once. I used a recipe from Oh She Glows -
- [When The Going Gets Rough – Drop Everything And CONNECT](https://tiaslightham.com/when-the-going-gets-rough-drop-everything-and-connect/) - Being a parent is a tough job, which requires us to wear many hats and be pulled in multiple directions all at the same time. The hustle and bustle of everyday life as a parent can sometimes simply be too much. The routines, schedules, mad dashes from one activity to the next, packing lunches,
- [3 Simple Steps To Get September School Ready](https://tiaslightham.com/3-simple-steps-to-get-september-school-ready/) - (photo cred: Renee Lara) Hi everyone! Hope you've all had a fantastic, safe, happy and healthy Summer. Hopefully you've had the chance to spend some great family time together. I haven't blogged in quite some time as my website is still in the middle of a make-over. Hopefully you've been following me on Facebook and
- [5 Simple Steps To Stop Bedtime Stalling](https://tiaslightham.com/5-simple-steps-to-stop-bedtime-stalling/) - Do You Live With A Bedtime Stalling Extraordinaire?? Do you live with a toddler or child that is the king or queen of bedtime stalling? You find yourself starting bedtime and before you know it over an hour has passed and your child is still not in bed or even close to falling asleep? Do
- [I NEED YOUR INPUT!](https://tiaslightham.com/i-need-your-input/) - Please take this 1 second poll to help me pick the business name you like best! I'm in the process of getting a new look! Your opinion matters!! http://poll.fm/5uv42
- [Fill Up Your Positive Parenting Tool Box](https://tiaslightham.com/fill-up-your-positive-parenting-tool-box/) - Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs we will ever do. Not only does it require time, patience and commitment but, we also have to do all of this with a boat load of emotions. We love our kids more than anything else and with this unconditional love comes a barrier to do our
- [Anything Is Fixable](https://tiaslightham.com/anything-is-fixable/) - Do you sometimes wonder if you're the only parents out there with kids still getting up multiple times a night? Are you the only ones with kids who somehow covertly sneak into your bed around 3 am and you wake with a foot in the face? Are you the only ones who have kids that
- [Who's In Charge - You OR Them?](https://tiaslightham.com/whos-in-charge-you-or-them/) - We’ve all been there: In the grocery store trying to get in and out of there quickly, when your child asks for something and you say that nasty, horrible word, “NO.” It’s at this moment that we know there's the possibility that our kids may completely lose it. When this tantrum and fit over not
- [For All You Sleep Deprived Mamas](https://tiaslightham.com/for-all-you-sleep-deprived-mamas/) - This picture really says it all. New mothers each year are suffering through terrible sleep deprivation. The exhaustion that sets in for most new moms is literally unbearable. Making you feel sick, irritable, unable to get up and do daily duties or even energized enough to simply shower and get dressed. Unfortunately, this exhaustion doesn't
- [All Eyes On You](https://tiaslightham.com/all-eyes-on-you/) - Who would have known that when we became parents we also became our child's #1 role model. We became the people whom our children rely on for so much from meeting basic needs, teaching the ways of the world, and with all this we do it through our example. OUR KIDS ARE WATCHING US AND
- [How Enabling Our Kids Directly Relates To Their Self-Worth](https://tiaslightham.com/how-enabling-our-kids-directly-relates-to-their-self-worth/) - How did September get here and so darn quickly? Wasn't it just June yesterday? With Summer vacation and kids out of their normal daily routines things sometimes need a little bit of assistance getting back in order. We need to re-train and practice our daily schedules and re-visit all the areas that need a little
- [5 Tips To Help You Get Your Kids School Ready](https://tiaslightham.com/5-tips-to-help-you-get-your-kids-school-ready/) - If you are anything like me, then you love the daily routines, structure and predictability that comes along with schedules. But, on the other hand there's something so great about the Summer when these routines and schedules can be loosened up. It's the ease of the summer days and not knowing exactly what is on
- [Kids Have Needs -- Are We Meeting Them?](https://tiaslightham.com/kids-have-needs-are-we-meeting-them/) - This is a loaded question and one that has to be asked and answered each day. Are we meeting our kids' needs? Are we EACH AND EVERY DAY meeting their attention and power quota that as humans they truly need. Often times as parents we have good days and bad days with our kids. This
- [When Is The 'RIGHT' Time To Sleep Train?](https://tiaslightham.com/when-is-the-right-time-to-sleep-train/) - When it comes to parenting we are bombarded by thoughts, questions and concerns on what's the best thing for our baby. Are we doing things right? Are we completely messing up our kids? Sleep is one area where mixed opinions are on full-throttle! When is it the "right" time to sleep train? This is the
- [When it Comes to Follow through There’s No Room For Wiggle Room - no matter how big or small the issue](https://tiaslightham.com/when-it-comes-to-follow-through-theres-no-room-for-wiggle-room-no-matter-how-big-or-small-the-issue/) - We’ve all been there: In the grocery store trying to get in and out of there when your child asks for something and you say that nasty, horrible word, “NO.” It’s at this moment that we know our kids may completely loose it. This is our moment of truth, do we stick to our guns
- [First CONNECT - Then DIRECT](https://tiaslightham.com/first-connect-then-direct/) - To begin discussing this topic I want you to say this phrase out loud, "THE KEY TO DIRECTING IS CONNECTING." Say this to yourself and think about the last time your little one was throwing a tantrum, screaming, slamming doors, refusing to cooperate and so on. Try to recall how the situation played out. Did it
- [The Reasons Why Punishment Only Makes Our Kids Act Up More](https://tiaslightham.com/the-reasons-why-punishment-only-makes-our-kids-act-up-more/) - It's one of those days, weeks or months where it feels as though our kids are cycling through a slew of bad behaviours. If it's not back talking, than it's eye-rolling, screaming, tantrums, door slamming, sibling rivalry, hitting and more. Just when we feel we have one behaviour dealt with, another one surfaces. This vicious
- [Tears Aren't Always A Bad Thing](https://tiaslightham.com/tears-arent-always-a-bad-thing/) - As parents there is nothing we enjoy about seeing our babies cry. We don't get pleasure when our kids are upset, frustrated or having a full-on meltdown. It's during these moments, where we have to take step-back and look at the big picture. We need to look at the whole picture and not just the
- [How To Overcome The Working Parent Guilt](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-overcome-the-working-parent-guilt/) - The guilt working parents feel and experience is undeniable. They physically can't spend enough time with their kids and this is a part of life. It’s totally and completely understandable to be feeling like there simply aren't enough hours in the day. There are only so many hours that our kids are home from school
- [3 Tantrum Stopping Strategies To Start Using Today](https://tiaslightham.com/3-tantrum-stopping-strategies-to-start-using-today/) - It’s one of those days where it feels like you just can’t win. It’s been battle after battle with your toddler/child and no matter what the incident it ends in a similar way. Kicking, screaming, red in the face squealing tantrums, which leave you standing there in complete awe. Wondering,
- [Why Giving Your Child Power Is A Positive](https://tiaslightham.com/why-giving-your-child-some-power-is-a-positive/) - There a 3 different types of parenting styles that create very different outcomes in your household and your parent/child relationship. Parents who are of the mind-set (authoritarian parenting) that they are 'in charge,' often fear what would happen if they gave their child any amount of control/power. They are the boss, the adult, and parent and
- [How To Establish A Well-Rested Family](https://tiaslightham.com/how-to-establish-a-well-rested-family/) - Gone are the days where families sat around all summer and every weekend simply lounging, relaxing and catching up on sleep. Gone are the days where kids are bored because there is nothing for them to do. In today’s society kids and families are so over-scheduled with sports, school, extracurricular activities and more, that it
- [Connect With Your Kids  - Put An End To Misbehaviours](https://tiaslightham.com/connect-with-your-kids-put-an-end-to-misbehaviours/) - "I feel like I am connected with my kids. I feel like I spend good quality time with them. I feel like I am present and part of their world." Parents tell me this all the time, but once we dig deep into their daily routines and patterns they soon realize that they haven't actually
- [Why Can't My Kids Just Get Along?](https://tiaslightham.com/why-cant-my-kids-just-get-along/) - Fighting, Child, Arguing, Sibling, Conflict Why is it that my kids can't just get along? Why do they have to fight the second I leave the room? Why is it that they play nice for a couple of minutes and then all hell breaks loose? These questions, amongst many more, that involve sibling rivalry are
- [Are Parents Academically Helping or Hurting??](https://tiaslightham.com/are-parents-academically-helping-or-hurting/) - As parents we often battle with questions revolving around our child's academic success. We struggle with how to help them at home. How we can support them with their homework and how can we ensure that they are reaching their optimal level. Questions such as these often leave parents feeling stumped. Feeling as though they
- [The Key To A Well-Behaved Child - Discipline](https://tiaslightham.com/the-key-to-a-well-behaved-child-discipline/) - DISCIPLINE!! Yikes! For so many parents this word brings up a deep sense of negativity. It makes them feel as though they are being mean or cruel to their children. Discipline makes them feel guilt before, during and after. What we need to remember is that DISCIPLINE IS POSITIVE. It's not punishment and when discipline is
- [Renee Lara Style - The Beauty Who Mothers and Styles In Pure Grace](https://tiaslightham.com/renee-lara-style-the-beauty-who-mothers-and-styles-in-pure-grace/) - My dear friend, whom I have know since childhood is a wife and mama to two adorable boys. She not only makes parenting looks easy, but she does it along with running her own business as a Wardrobe Stylist at Renee Lara Style and blogs about it along the way. Renee is definitely rooted through her life experiences and her
- [Have You Lost the Joy in Parenting?](https://tiaslightham.com/have-you-lost-the-joy-in-parenting/) - Ask yourself these questions regarding your current state of parenting: do you dread certain or most parts of your day? Is the best part of your day when your child is sleeping? Do you feel like you've lost all control and you live your life battling it out with you kids about everything from bedtime,
- [Teaching Life Skills For Your Kids - Starts Today](https://tiaslightham.com/teaching-life-skills-for-your-kids-starts-today/) - It's fairly typical and a bit of pure human nature to shove things to the side and simply 'worry about it later.' We all have the tendency to procrastinate to some degree. To take the easy way out in order to get the job done. To do whatever it takes to get what we want, even
- [New Year for New Beginnings](https://tiaslightham.com/new-year-for-new-beginnings/) - It's that time of year where everyone, myself included, sits back and takes a long hard look at the year that just passed. Did we accomplish all we wanted? Are we happy with it overall? Did was have success? Where did we fail? And now the big question....How the heck can we improve this year?
- [Do You Believe in Crying it out?](https://tiaslightham.com/do-you-believe-in-crying-it-out/) - Do you believe in crying it out? The Fear of Tears By: Tia Slightham written for Pink and Blue Baby Magazine The biggest and baddest question in all things babies! To sleep train or not to? To let them cry or not? The internal power struggle of emotions that goes on inside regarding this issue
- [A Well-Behaved Child Is A Disciplined Child](https://tiaslightham.com/a-well-behaved-child-is-a-disciplined-child/) - People often have negative thoughts when they hear the word 'discipline.' They have this perspective that puts discipline in a black cloud. The confusion in our world today is that people think there are only two types of parenting: authoritative and permissive. Authoritative parenting is parenting where, you the parent, over-power your child. It's a
- [Guide Your Baby Into Good Habits (birth-12 weeks)](https://tiaslightham.com/guide-your-baby-into-good-habits-birth-12-weeks/) - Bringing home baby can be one of the scariest, most joyful, straight up panicked, tearful, blissful and a complete cause for being overwhelmed situation! How one tiny baby can bring about such a crazy mixture of emotions is yet to be determined, but for all of us parents out there, we can vouch that all
- [Either...Or (two miracle words to create peace!)](https://tiaslightham.com/either-or/) - Two of the best words in parenting! When used properly and in the right context you will find these two words decrease power struggles and increase your child's sense of control and power. Your child was born hard-wired needing their buckets of attention and power to be filled each day (adopted by Amy McCready of Positive
- [Look Who's Boss!](https://tiaslightham.com/look-whos-boss/) - Do you ever get sick of all the nagging and complaining? Being constantly on your kids for things they need to do? Sick of hearing your voice? Feeling like you're always the bad guy? If you answered yes to any or all of these questions then this post is for you! READ ON!!!
- [Early Bedtimes for a Healthier Family](https://tiaslightham.com/early-bedtimes-for-a-healthier-family/) - Basic needs seems so basic, but they are the foundation for all things sane in parenting! I'm not here to preach to you or tell you how to run your house. I am here because I care and through my experience have witnessed how far South things can go if these needs are not met. The basic needs I'm speaking of are healthy nutrition and healthy sleep. The two of these together will help create a happier and healthier family as a whole. Today I am going to focus on sleep and reasons why getting your kids to bed earlier will be the starting point for you creating a more positive parenting outcome.
- [Worried Sleep Training Isn't for You?](https://tiaslightham.com/worried-sleep-training-isnt-for-you/) - hi parents and followers! happy new year and i hope you all had a fantastic holiday season! we are finally getting back into our usual rhythm of school and activities. where does the time go? i wish i could slow it down, but unfortunately i don't have the power. although, i do have the power to help you sleep train your little ones! i read an article this morning from the Globe and Mail newspaper titled "secrets of a cold-hearted 'sleep trainer.'" it was a very interesting article and one that left me wishing i could write the author back. wishing i could tell her it was possible and that everything would be okay. that you can sleep all night and so can your babies/kids. its not an impossible feat. it is something everyone can do with commitment and consistency. i'm not saying it's always easy and it is sometimes easier for some than others. some are left feeling pleasantly surprised and others struggle through it, but end with success. with my help, support, and assistance, together you can have success! i'm positive!
- [Growing Independence](https://tiaslightham.com/growing-independence/) - Helping your child to grow and develop in the department of independence, is a constant work in progress. It doesn't happen overnight and it will definitely take some hard work, time and commitment. Noticing a theme here? All things in successful parenting require these 3 things! Hard work, time, and commitment. Well behaved, responsible, independent children are not miracles. Well, in some degree yes, our kids are all miracles, but their behaviour is a product of their parents dedication and commitment to them. Last weekend we were out for lunch downtown at a place we always go to, as it's the boys' favourite spot. The new manager came over to introduce herself to us and to tell us that Justin, one of the servers there we know, told her that 'those two little boys are the best behaved boys he has ever served in his entire life!' Compliments like this help you as the parent realize that your hard work is paying off. That you are raising well-behaved children who know how to act in public settings and more important they know the reasons why it's important to act a certain way. This happens through lots of time, training and communication with your kids, which you can all do, if you're not already!
- [Consistency Is Your Key To Successful Parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/consistency-is-your-key-to-successful-parenting/) - Well, I have to say I am very excited to be posting from my newly launched website. I have worked hard to expand my business and services to meet more of your needs! I hope this post and my new site finds all of you well. Today I am going to chat about the big kahuna....CONSISTENCY!! This is the key to all things successful in parenting. It is your key to success from birth onward. With this word taken into action you will create an environment for you and your children that is manageable . You will help make parenting a joy and less of a struggle. You will be able to control your household in a well mannered, calm and more predictable way.
- [Listen, Listen, Listen](https://tiaslightham.com/listen-listen-listen/) - One of the most important things we do as humans, but sometimes forget to do is LISTEN!!! It is an amazing gift and trait that will help you in so many situations throughout life. The true capability to listen, to truly listen, is something that we all take for granted. We can all listen but forget at times what it means to be a 'good' listener. To fully focus without distractions. To listen without your phone in your hand, your Ipad open or TV on. To give your complete self to the person you are listening to, will take you places you didn't realize were possible.
- [Sibling Wars](https://tiaslightham.com/sibling-wars/) - Often we find ourselves wondering if our kids will ever stop arguing and just get along. Why can't they just play together peacefully? Why can't they be happy to have one another? Don't they know how lucky they are to have a brother or sister? I'm sure if you have more than one child, these are all questions you have asked yourself at one time or another. Teaching your kids to get along and learn to resolve their issues is an ongoing process, but if you are constantly on it you will find success. Like all things parenting it will take time and commitment. It will take you intercepting in the beginning to give examples and guidance and then once you have set up your boundaries and expectations you will be able to give your reminder and off they go. By creating this type of environment in your home you will find that you will be creating a more peaceful home and also helping your kids develop more independence.
- [6 months of freedom....not likely!](https://tiaslightham.com/6-months-of-freedom-not-likely/) - are you bringing home a newborn and getting all geared up to continue your regular schedule. after all how hard can it be? all you have to do is lug the baby carrier or bucket car seat with you, right? the baby can sleep anywhere, right? you can still go out to dinners and stay out late because the baby can go with you, right? well, sorry to burst your bubble, but not really! yes, for the first few weeks you can do this. your freedom to some degree can continue. granted, you will need to meet every need of your new baby while you're out doing what used to be done in such a glamorous and speedy fashion. now you must stop to feed your baby, burp your baby, change your baby, and anything else that goes along with your new little package.
- [Sleep Must Come First](https://tiaslightham.com/sleep-must-come-first/) - just like you, your child has needs. they need to eat, drink, sleep, be stimulated, cared for and loved. often times the basics of food and shelter take first precedence and parents feel they are doing what's important for their child. yes, of course you are but when sleep doesn't take the driver seat and
- [Solid Sleep Cues Help Create Solid Sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/solid-sleep-cues-help-create-solid-sleep/) - often times i hear from parents and or/clients that their baby sleeps well some of the time, but other times he/she is waking often and not sleeping well. usually the root of this issue is that they are lacking solid, consistent sleep cues and sleep environments. babies do really well when there is a routine
- [swaddle or sleep sack?](https://tiaslightham.com/swaddle-or-sleep-sack/) - hello my fellow readers, parents, and followers! my sincere apologies for being the biggest blogging slacker ever! i have had a busy summer with my kids and prior to that i won't bore you with excuses. needless to say i am back and am truly sorry for my lack of commitment to all of you and Mommy Secrets. i am one to always preach commitment and consistency with your babies and children and than here i go being the worlds' biggest hypocrite in regards to my commitment to you! so one final, SORRY!!!!
- [good reads](https://tiaslightham.com/good-reads/) - just as we are constantly reinforcing the importance of literacy and reading with and to our little ones, it's just as important that we read and read some more ourselves! of course, we all need to take some time and just read to relax but, it's also good to freshen up on our parenting by reading some of the great resources that are out there for all of us! every once in awhile i find it very helpful to find a parenting book that discusses whatever issue(s) i feel our family is going through. for example: back talking, parent/child struggles, etc. every child and family has certain phases that come and go. it's how you deal with these issues and phases that help you get through them in a less painful way. the rate at which they disappear and get you back to your normal state is reliant on how you choose to deal with it.
- [stuck in the middle of 1 or 2 naps](https://tiaslightham.com/stuck-in-the-middle-of-1-or-2-naps/) - it seems as though it's just all of a sudden, with no warnings, that your little one starts to battle one of their naps and the transition from 2 naps to 1 is staring you in the face. lets face it. it's the inevitable. your quiet mornings sipping coffee and reading the newspaper or catching up one emails are over in a blink of an eye. you know they still need to nap, but you also know they are developmentally and physically ready for a single afternoon nap. the idea of this transition sounds simple seems as though it would be a smooth and easy flow. that you would simply stop putting your little one down in the morning and just put them down after lunch for their long afternoon snooze. sadly, it doesn't always go like this.
- [would you like to know when i post?](https://tiaslightham.com/would-you-like-to-know-when-i-post/) - if you would like to know each time i enter a new blog post than subscribe to mommy secrets! this way you will be notified via email when i have something new to say! easy, quick and keeps me in touch with all of you! simply click here to subscribe! you can also join my
- [when is the right time to sleep train your infant?](https://tiaslightham.com/when-is-the-right-time-to-sleep-train-your-infant/) - this is a question that frequently gets asked and there are so many different answers given by specific sleep doulas, sleep books, etc. that it often makes it difficult to know what the 'right' answer is. i have read many sleep training books and the majority of them say somewhere between 4-6 months. i, on the other hand, say you can do it earlier than this. you know your baby better than anyone else. you know if they are playing games in the night. if they are truly hungry and eating or just looking for your attention. that being said i say you usually have a good mother's gut feeling when you think your baby is ready to begin.
- [do your kids frustrate you??](https://tiaslightham.com/do-your-kids-frustrate-you/) - i'm sure the answer to this question is yes for all of us at one point or another. the thing is there are ways to make it so the answer is yes a heck of a lot less! through my parenting and teaching i have discovered many organizational tips to help me get through my days with very minor frustrations, if not any, a lot of the time. i have to say that organization is the key. without this you are a complete wreck and so are your kids.
- [mommy secret revealed:  don't make habits you don't want to break!](https://tiaslightham.com/mommy-secret-revealed-dont-make-habits-you-dont-want-to-break/) - this seems an obvious statement, but lets face it, sometimes the obvious goes in one ear and out the other. i have learned through being a teacher and by parenting, that it is so much easier to let off a bit in terms of discipline, than it is to try and regain it. this is why i strongly encourage you to stick to your guns in all circumstances! whatever you do, don't give it!! once you do, all hell breaks loose! the reason i'm chatting about this today isn't because hudson is having any serious terrible two instances, well at least not this week, but rather because he is sick and something came to mind. i wanted to share with you the importance of having your kids sleep in their own beds!! starting with the age they are in cribs all the way up!! don't let them sleep in your bed or you in theirs after a nightmare, sickness, or whatever clever reason they come up with to conquer this challenge. just don't do it! not even once! once you give in one time, the battle begins. i will go into this topic on many occasions while writing to you in my blog because this is very important in all areas to make and maintain a calm and orderly home with your babies, toddlers, and kids.
- [sleepless nights : sam 7 months](https://tiaslightham.com/sleepless-nights-sam-7-months/) - hi everyone! sorry been gone so long....been super buys helping moms sleep train. i will try and blog more often and keep you up to date on all the stories related to these moms and their sleep issues. not to mention i will give some tips along the way! i am going to change the names of my clients to maintain their privacy, but their story will not be altered in any way. each situation is unique and has their own individual sleep problems. in this next case we have 7 month, sam who is not sleeping properly. his mother, sara, is very frustrated by his sleeping habits and ultimately wants him to sleep 2 solid naps each day and sleep at night from 7am-7pm without waking/feeds.
- [troubles with bringing home baby #2](https://tiaslightham.com/troubles-with-bringing-home-baby-2/) - for those of you who have 2 kids or who are about to have 2 kids, i am sure you have witnessed or been wondering about what will happen when the baby comes home and invades the space of your first! this can be a stressful time as you are not only worried about your first, but now your second. you are completely exhausted and are entering a world of the unknown. all of these things combined can cause for a bit of a disaster zone. there are some things you can do to try and make this transition a little bit easier on your toddler and in turn will make life easier for you!
- [catching your zzz's : 1 year sadie sleeps](https://tiaslightham.com/catching-your-zzzs-1-year-sadie-sleeps/) - hi everyone! it's been a busy week with out of town guests and my son, hudson, turning 3. that being said, sorry i haven't gotten back to you sooner with little sadie's sleep results! sadie who was struggling to go to bed for naps and nighttime has made amazing progress. she is no longer waking in the night. along with her all night sleep she is going to bed earlier. no more 11:00pm bedtimes! for laura and her schedule, she could manage to get her down consistently around 9:30pm and this is working for them. laura understands that this is still too late, but your child's schedule has to be something you can be consistent with. the consistency is key and is helping sadie create good sleep habits. she goes down without a fuss and sleeps all night. laura removed all stimulation from her crib and helped to make her room a more calming environment. 'setting the stage' can be half the battle.
- [without you....there is no me!](https://tiaslightham.com/without-you-there-is-no-me/) - a personal thank you to all my clients and readers from the month of january! truly without you...there is no me!! i love helping everyone with their parenting questions and to get the sleep they deserve! the positives that sleep brings you and your baby is intangible! in combination with my guidance and support and your hard work and 100% dedication, we have successfully sleep trained many many babies this month alone! below i have listed a few quotes that came directly from some of my january clients!! once again thank you for allowing me to help you catch your zzz's!!
- [update #2 for sam (7 months)](https://tiaslightham.com/update-2-for-sam-7-months/) - well, we are at yet another night with our little sam. he is doing so well and we are getting him there. it has been only 3 nights since we began this process and read below the email strand quoted from sara about sam's progress and my response:
- [sleepless nights : jake (6 months)](https://tiaslightham.com/sleepless-nights-jake-6-months/) - the more people i help, the more apparent it becomes that many of the same issues cross over between clients. if you ever feel like you are the only one that has ever created a particular bad habit with your little ones' sleep issues...you can just stop thinking that immediately! you are not the only one who has let your child sleep in the swing, sleep with you, nurse all night, nap only on the go, rock to sleep....the list goes on and on and you can rest assured that the list who do these things goes on and on as well! good parents are only doing what they think is best for their baby and therefore, there is no blame and no one at fault! you are doing your best and that is all that anyone can ask. so stop beating yourself up and being so hard on yourself and start getting your sleep! i recently helped trish and her 6 month old son, jake, catch their zzz's and now her 'beat yourself up as a parent list', isn't quite so long!
- [time change troubles?](https://tiaslightham.com/time-change-troubles/) - over the past couple days, i am getting a lot of complaints about how the time change is throwing everyone for a loop! stupid me, i should have posted about this a few nights ago! sorry about that! i guess the leprechaun got the best of me:)over time, no pun intended, i have perfected the way to get your kids adapted to a time change without the battles, struggles, and complete chaos that normally goes along with this! i often hear families complaining about how hard it was to get their kids on to a new time zone while traveling and/or the struggle to overcome the daylight savings hour that comes our way no matter what!
- [it's the little things!](https://tiaslightham.com/its-the-little-things/) - being a parent is something no one could have ever fully prepared me for. it's just one of those things that you have to do to know. no matter how many times people say just wait until you have kids! better enjoy life now before the baby comes! your life will never be the same! you simply don't get it, until you do it! having kids is totally indescribable. each person experiences it in a different way and there is no way to tell anyone what it will be like. for me, i sort of thought i had a pretty good idea what i was getting into. i have my masters in education and taught kindergarten before kids. i also used to do tons of babysitting and was a part time nanny during university. needless to say, my life revolved around what i loved, kids! the funny thing is, even with all the experience i had with children...it's just not the same as when they are your own. having your own brings about this overwhelming sense of responsibility and with this comes this out of this world, massive type of love. i never could have imagined how much i would have loved my kids. the love is a love so big that you would jump in front of a moving train to save their lives. you would sacrifice anything to make them happy and to be sure they are comfortable, healthy and happy individuals.
- [walking on eggshells](https://tiaslightham.com/walking-on-eggshells/) - do you feel as though you are walking on eggshells around you kids? afraid that at any given moment your child might loose his/her cool and have one of those crazy, out of body melt downs? feeling like you need to spend your days basically kowtowing to keep them happy? if you feel this way entirely or even just every so often than i think what you're about to read may be of some use for you and your family. when your children make you feel like you are walking on eggshells the main problem is that they are in charge. somewhere along the line the person in charge switched from you to them. once this happens all sense of control is out the door.
- [is it seriously june again?](https://tiaslightham.com/is-it-seriously-june-again/) - every year i ask myself this question and every year for some reason the answer is always, yes! how is it possible that an entire year has passed. that our kids are finished another school year and we are , yes, another year older. how does this happen and so quickly? june is that bitter sweet time of year. that time of year where there is tons of hustle and bustle to finish up the school year, say goodbye to friends and teachers for the summer and again, yes, gear up to have your kids home all summer!! being a former teacher and now a parent i can say with certainty that summer break is a teachers' dream and a parents' nightmare. well, maybe not a nightmare entirely, but i love that analogy! it's that time of year where you don't know how you will survive the summer with kids home everyday. but, like every year, the summer will fly by and before long, if you're anything like me, you will be slightly saddened that they are heading back to school. it's a cycle that just goes on and on each and every year!
- [kids sharing a room doesn't have to mean no sleep!](https://tiaslightham.com/kids-sharing-a-room-doesnt-have-to-mean-no-sleep/) - my deepest apologies to all my readers for not writing this summer! no excuses, but i did have a bit of a crazy summer with a flooded basement, broken washing machine, my vacuum bit the dust, hudson almost lost a finger at camp (literally), and the list goes on! But…like i mentioned, no excuses! this summer we spent some time at the cottage and I got my idea for this post due to the fact that we decided to finally try and get hudson (4 years) and beckett (2 years) to share a room. Selfishly we attempted this challenge, so we wouldn't have to suffer 3 weeks on the living room pull out couch!
- [agree to disagree](https://tiaslightham.com/agree-to-disagree/) - opinions, opinions, opinions! we are all surrounded by them each and every day! we also give our opinions each and every day, so we are just as much to blame as those around us! the funny thing is some have a hard time understanding that someone else's opinion shouldn't be taken personally and you don't
- [is the leprechaun leaving tracks in your house?](https://tiaslightham.com/is-the-leprechaun-leaving-tracks-in-your-house/) - for some st. patty's day fun have the leprechaun visit your house and get your kids involved, excited, and learning about the irish! this is fun for the whole family and the look on your kids' faces will make it all worthwhile!! please read my guest article for Club Mom and catch that little
- [laser maze....say what?](https://tiaslightham.com/laser-maze-say-what/) - i know you're thinking..what the heck is a laser maze? i'm not sure about all you parents out there, but i am always trying to come up with something fun to do with my little ones. either with both my kiddos or something fun for hudson to do while beckett naps in the afternoon, or just because it's an at home day and we are desperate for something fun to do! one of my new year's resolutions is to be more creative with the activities i do with my kids. sure legos, building blocks, baking, arts, etc. are always great, but i want to try and do some activities that are out of the norm! something to spice up life!
- [back to the basics](https://tiaslightham.com/back-to-the-basics/) - sometimes i find that when it comes to sleep training your little one you need to just go back to the basics! there are some very important steps you must follow when helping to teach your little one to sleep properly. i am a firm believer in choosing a sleep training method that you feel confident in and one you feel you can stick to! if you are thinking of sleep training, have already sleep trained but need to get your little back on track due to sleep digressions, or feel you need to make some changes to your already established sleep regime than this article is for you! there are a few points that i feel are a MUST if you are in any of the above situations. without these pointers it is very difficult to create a concrete sleeper!
- [reflections of a parent](https://tiaslightham.com/reflections-of-a-parent/) - goodbye 2012 and hello 2013! a new year to start fresh, continue with the good and try and fix the bad! it's time to reflect on the past year and think about ways in which we want to try and better ourselves and how we live our lives. sometimes reflection isn't always the easiest thing to do as we often have to re-live times, experiences, or actions that we may not enjoy or be all that proud of. that being said once the reflection is complete and you've had time to really think about those times, you are often bettered for it! you can then move forward trying to create better actions in the new year to come.
- [are you boarding the sleep train?? Guest post for Club Mom](https://tiaslightham.com/are-you-boarding-the-sleep-train-guest-post-for-club-mom/) - please click the link at the bottom and read about the benefits of sleep training your little ones! the benefits for your child, you, and your entire family! i'm sending you to the post via this the link as i did a guest post for Club Mom : www.clubmom.ca it's a great site for moms
- [Hard work up front pays off in the long run](https://tiaslightham.com/hard-work-up-front-pays-off-in-the-long-run/) - just like most things in life, hard work pays off. becoming a new parent is a bit scary as it's one of those things that you have to just sort of fly by the seat of your pants. there is no manual on how to parent, but i can say that if you simply love your kids as much as possible than you will always do your best. you will take the time and effort to always try. you will read articles, ask friends, learn through trial and error, learn from your mistakes and mainly you will give it everything you've got! afterall, what have you got to lose? we've only got one life and one opportunity to raise our kids! yes, you can simply just raise kids, but do you want to do that? or do you want to raise them to be the absolute best human being they can possibly be? i hope your answer is yes to this! your kids are counting on YOU!!! don't do them a disservice and half-ass the job. make it your #1 priority to parent exceptionally! this is your time to commit to them and before you know it they will be all grown up and the proof will be in the pudding!
- [can't they just stay little forever?](https://tiaslightham.com/cant-they-just-stay-little-forever/) - how badly i wish the answer to this very question was, yes. i find myself thinking where did the time go? it's a mere blink of an eye and my sweet hudson will be 4 in january and my baby becks is already 16 months. don't get me wrong i love watching them grow and learn. seeing them develop into such sweet, bright, well mannered little boys is any parents dream. but, lets face it...our babies growing up is the ultimate bitter sweet!
- [baby talk...NOT even for babies!!!](https://tiaslightham.com/baby-talk-not-even-for-babies/) - who is baby talk for? in my opinion the answer is no one!! i'm not saying to avoid a sweet sing-song voice with your infants/babies, but i am saying that no one needs to listen to baby talk! baby talk for me is a sort of nails on the chalkboard sound. it irritates me, but more importantly it frustrates me. it frustrates me because i feel sorry for the baby or child. babies and children learn from you. for the first few years of their lives all education comes from you...the parents!! it is your job to teach them about everything and language in particular. they learn from example, exposure, and repetition. you are responsible for giving them all of these three things!
- [cry it out (CIO)...not exactly!!](https://tiaslightham.com/cry-it-out-cio-not-exactly/) - it seems like many mommies have emailed recently with a similar comment. they have babies who sometimes sleep, but not always. sleep through the night, but not always. nap, but not always. they all say to me "i've tried the CRY IT OUT (CIO) method, but nothing seems to work!" this always hits home with me and a very large red flag goes up. the comments regarding being a good sleeper some of the time and the fact they have given CIO a shot shows me a great deal of inconsistency regarding teaching their little ones to sleep. i am not bagging any of you moms who have this same situation or one similar. i am only here to help and since this seems to be a very common issue lately, i thought i would address a few things that will hopefully help or get you headed on the right path.
- [good old fashioned family time](https://tiaslightham.com/good-old-fashioned-family-time/) - there really is nothing better than good old fashioned family time. the problem is, it seems harder to come by in this day and age. with all the newest and latest technology, television, schedules, over-programmed kids, working parents and much more it seems almost impossible to get back to the roots and just spend time together. time chatting with your kids. time playing with your kids. time snuggling and reading with your kids. time playing board games and eating meals together. all of these things seem like ordinary activities, but oddly enough they don't happen in many households or if they do happen it's not often. rather we (meaning society in general) rush by one another in the mornings trying to get organized for the day. we race from activity to activity from drop offs to pick ups. we feed one kid and then other later. we try to just get through the day using our survival skills and ready for the next. during these crazy days we often forget the importance of "good old fashioned family time!"
- [boredom equals bad behaviour](https://tiaslightham.com/boredom-equals-bad-behaviour/) - summer is vacation is either here for your kids or quickly approaching! now the question for parents is...what am i going to do with them all summer long? i find myself asking this same question, but also being excited to have my little man home from nursery school to spend some good quality time together. hudson is so much fun to have around. like his teacher said in his report card, "morning chats are like tea time with a best friend!" she is exactly right in her description and i couldn't agree more. therefore, i want to keep hudson busy enough this summer, while still allowing relaxation and time to just hang! we all need a break from the routine and business. time just to do sporadic activities, play with friends, and hang with the family.
- [flexibility....a must!](https://tiaslightham.com/flexibility-a-must/) - flexibility isn't really a choice when it comes to parenting. it's more like a must! without the ability to be flexible, parenting can become a much more difficult job than it has to be. your capability to be flexible in certain circumstances will make everyone in your family feel daily success, rather than pure defeat. as a parent you want your day to go as smoothly as possible. this is why we have schedules and routines in place. with these schedules your days run like a smooth oiled machine. without, it's a crazy form of chaos. the schedules allow you to be organized, which is a pertinent key to having happy kids. schedules are your general guide, but it doesn't mean you can't stray from it from time to time. by having strict routines and schedules in place it will allow you to go off of them occasionally without insane melt downs from your little ones. you have to be flexible because life happens. you also have to be flexible because every time you have a schedule in place it seems your child than has a schedule change. goes from one nap to two. needs a later bedtime. wakes earlier and therefore naps earlier. there are many scenarios beyond these that come about, forcing you to be flexible.
- [explanations needed!!](https://tiaslightham.com/explanations-needed/) - lets face the facts...when someone tells you 'no,' you want to know why? when someone says 'stop doing something,' you want to know why? when someone is upset with you, you want to know why? we all look for some type of explanation when something occurs whether good or bad. we like to know the facts and so do your kids. babies and children are humans. yes they are little, but they are still humans. just like you and i. they are capable of understanding your explanations and we owe it to them to try and explain each situation and scenario that occurs to them.
- [my baby turned 1!!](https://tiaslightham.com/my-baby-turned-1/) - all i can say is where has the time gone? it only seems like yesterday that we were bringing baby beckett home from the hospital and now an entire year has passed. it's bitter sweet to have my baby turning 1. i selfishly want my baby to stay little forever, but at the same time
- [freedom or happy kids?](https://tiaslightham.com/freedom-or-happy-kids/) - freedom or happy kids.... i have to admit this is a complete toss up! although, the decision for me is an easy one. i definitely go with happy kids. sure, i would love to just go where i need to go and do what i want to do when the time was convenient for me.
- [responsible kids or just plain brats for life?](https://tiaslightham.com/responsible-kids-or-just-plain-brats-for-life/) - hi everyone! so very sorry i have been out of touch for so long. between travel and my mom here to visit life hasn't been so called-normal for the last couple weeks. my apologies! i know my title may sound a bit harsh, but i recently read an article from Parents Magazine. the article was
- [stand tall in your shoes!!](https://tiaslightham.com/stand-tall-in-your-shoes/) - right for you....wrong for them! parenting is something that brings about debate after debate after debate. some minor and some so controversial that the discussions become seriously heated! with this comes parents second guessing themselves, wondering if they are doing this right or wrong and maybe feeling a sense of failure with certain issues. i'm here to tell you to not let it get to you. if you let the pressures of others get under your skin you will be unhappy parenting. you have to remember that they are your kids and the choices and decisions you make towards parenting are entirely up to YOU! don't let others push you around. make you feel inferior or wrong. i often find what other parents have to say very interesting and i learn lots from others. what i don't listen to is negative comments or judgements made towards me and/or my parenting style.
- [happy mother's day!!](https://tiaslightham.com/happy-mothers-day/) - a very happy happy mommy's day to all you wonderful mommies! to all of you, whom like myself, dedicate our world, lives and entire heart to our beautiful children. you deserve a day to be recognized for all your hard work and i truly hope that you were by the ones you love!
- [is the dog getting more food than your baby?](https://tiaslightham.com/is-the-dog-getting-more-food-than-your-baby/) - it's funny how you can forget so much from one child to the next! it also boggles my mind how two kids from the same recipe can have such different personalities! these differences are what make each of our kids unique and why we love them all so much! that being said beckett (10 1/2 months) is at that stage where he knows he shouldn't do something, but likes to look at you directly in the eye, smirk and follow through with whatever he knows he shouldn't be doing! when he looks at me with those big, knowing, blue eyes it is hard not to let out a little chuckle or smile, but i try my best to hold strong! hudson, my first, was one of those boys, and still is, whom always seemed overly compliant. i would say 'no' 1 or 2 times and he would move onto something else, never to return there again. it breaks my heart how sweet he truly is! beckett on the other hand, still sweet of course, is a bit more aggressive if that's the right word:) he knows what he wants and is doing his absolute best to get it. i can't fault the guy for his determination but, on the other hand, all of his hard work is making my work a bit more challenging, to say the least. my 'no' 1 or 2 times to address something with hudson isn't coming even remotely close to the tip of the ice berg with becks.
- [is pooping seriously a choice?](https://tiaslightham.com/is-pooping-seriously-a-choice/) - according to my 3 year old, pooping is actually a choice!! argh!! this might be the most frustrating thing for the both of us. he is fine to go anywhere as long as mommy, daddy, nana, or connie are around to take him to the potty. for some reason the school potty is a 'no way in hell' sort of place to go. no good reasons for this stance, but this stance is strong to say the least! hudson goes to school each morning and stays 2 days for the full day for french immersion. mon/wed/fri he has no poop issues as he is home 1/2 day to do his business. our problem arises on his long days! every tuesday we begin our struggle of being totally backed up! he remains this way from tuesday-thursday in fear of getting out what is, truly a full-grown man sized poo! yucko and ouchy all at once! he is completely terrified to go as he knows it will hurt. i, of course, have to play the roll of coaching! i feel as though i am coaching him through child birth and the screams and actions from him resemble this act as well :( together we HATE this whole thing!!
- [i swear by it!!](https://tiaslightham.com/i-swear-by-it/) - as mom's, we all have our things we swear by. whether it be tricks of the trade, methods of parenting, and of course the products we choose to use! we all have our preferences of which diaper brand, disposable or cloth, homemade baby food or jarred, lotion before bed or not, etc. this list will go on for eternity, but one product that is definitely worth mentioning as a mommy tip: bio gaia!!! i swear by this stuff up and down. it is a little bit like liquid gold! it's not cheap to say the least, but the amazing work it does on your little ones' immune system is worth every penny! we go through one of these tiny little bottles, that costs in and around $33.00 each week. we used to spread it through 2 weeks before the arrival of baby beckett, but now the 2 boys smack back 1 per week. i can't imagine the bio gaia budget per year if we end up with a 3rd baby, yikes!!
- [splashing fish or 'wailing' whale?](https://tiaslightham.com/splashing-fish-or-wailing-whale/) - newborns and baths...some parents find this time of the day to be a relaxing one, as their infants lay back and relax. others find this time extremely stressful as their tiny new baby, flails around wet, shivering and flat out pissed! as a first time parent everything can be somewhat awkward as you are trying to get the hang of so many new things. simply trying to organize when to bathe the baby can be trying enough, let alone the actual handling of the slippery baby both in the bath and getting them out. with lots of practice and a very useful tip from a nurse when i delivered my first i have been able to get the wailing whale to stop and relax! once i got the hang of everything, had a schedule/routine in place, bath time was something i, and my baby, looked forward to each evening. it took me a little bit of time to master the art of newborn bathing with my first. poor hudson was the guinea pig and had to struggle through my learning and therefore, little becks definitely got the good of the stick with this one! as you can see from the photo just 1 1/2 weeks old and loving every minute of his bath. so much that he actually fell asleep! priceless!
- [co-sleeping a safe choice?](https://tiaslightham.com/co-sleeping-a-safe-choice/) - co-sleeping is one of those issues that happens to be one of the most controversial and talked about topics in parenting. it seems as though you either fully agree or fully disagree. there isn't any amount of gray. my opinion towards co-sleeping is on the side of disagree. it's not because i don't love to snuggle with my babies, or as hudson would say "nuggle," but rather it's because i find it very dangerous. it's one of those things where you think nothing will ever happen to your baby in your bed, but the reality is it happens to someone. sadly, not just a single someone, but multiple families lose their little ones due to co-sleeping every day. your bed isn't a safe place for your tiny one to be with you. especially because in most cases you are co-sleeping due to complete exhaustion. you're not as alert as you should be and when your body experiencing this type of exhaustion your not aware of what you may or may not do in your sleep. i see the perks of co-sleeping. as it makes it easier to feed and attend to your baby when they are right there with you and you don't have to get up out of bed and make the trek down the hall or over to the bassinet. i fully understand the reasoning behind this, but not enough to outweigh the risks involved. i also understand that parents want to bond with their babies and give them skin to skin, and time to be physically close to one another. this again, i agree with and feel is very important. i believe making time for this during the daytime hours is the safe way to get this type of bonding. many co-sleep because they want to be there the second their baby 'needs' them. this is an entirely another topic of discussion and one we can get into later, as it's definitely one of my reasons for disagreeing with co-sleep as a sleep solution. in a nutshell i truly don't agree with co-sleeping for the safety of my babies and everyone else's. i know we are all trying to do our best and we all have our own beliefs on the many issues involved with parenting. often we have to learn to agree to disagree, but in terms of co-sleep i stand firm in my belief that it just isn't safe!!
- [did the stork drop you a 'good' baby??](https://tiaslightham.com/did-the-stork-drop-you-a-good-baby/) - if you are answering no to this question than you are absolutely correct! i'm not talking about your newborn. i'm talking about once your infant gets a bit older and is over any colic phase, if you were one of the unfortunate few who were given this challenge! the interesting thing is, the answer should be 'no' for everyone! it's 'no' if you have a baby who doesn't sleep, cries all the time, along with many other issues. it's 'no' if you have toddlers or kids who don't listen, behave or whom are constantly throwing tantrums spiralling out of control, and of course many other issues that go along with these. the interesting thing is for those who answered 'no' but don't have any of the above issues. the reason these people are answering 'no' is because they didn't just get the luck of the draw and were miraculously granted a so-called "good" baby! this is not the case. the stork didn't just drop them a good one! they put in lots of hard work, time and commitment to their children to help mold them into the human being they are! therefore you can see where i am going with this post. your baby, toddler, kids are good because you parented them to be just so. on the other hand, if they are not so good, than somewhere along the way you may have missed something. this is not a slap in the face to anyone. rather it's a wake-up call that it doesn't have to be this way!
- [back to reality!](https://tiaslightham.com/back-to-reality/) - well, i'm back from my sister's long weekend away to california! the kids survived, my husband barely (lol!), and i'm refreshed and ready for anything! good thing, since both boys decided to come down with a nasty cough, nose, and fever gig! needless to say trying to adjust to the 3 hour time change, while listening to the orchestra of coughs throughout the night and dealing with 5 am fevers, i can officially say i'm back to where i was before i went! only kidding! it's not that bad and i am so happy that i had the chance to get away from my groundhogs day routine and have a little adult time; white wine lunches, shopping and wondering the streets with a latte and no 'snack traps' or 'sippy cups in hand!'
- [yawning, fussing and rubbing eyes?](https://tiaslightham.com/yawning-fussing-and-rubbing-eyes/) - do you witness one or all of these things in your child? does it happen once in a day? all day? if you answered yes to ANY of these questions, than your child is over-tired! once you have an over-tired child and the ideal window for sleep has been missed, than i can probably say you have your work cut out for you! by paying close attention to your baby's behaviour and schedule (feeds, sleep, stimulation time) you will more easily distinguish his/her tired signs. by figuring these signals out you will have half the battle in the bag!
- [sleep deprivation killing you?](https://tiaslightham.com/sleep-deprivation-killing-you/) - sleep deprivation...other wise know as the living hell! there really is nothing worse! losing sleep day in and day out, night after night, is enough to make you feel like you want to crack or maybe kill!! i remember the feeling with both my boys when they were newborns and the memory doesn't fade. i recently came across this article, "the case for sleep medecine," from the new york times newspaper. it had some very interesting things to say about the sleep deprivation. we all know that it makes us feel like crap, but this article points out some of the negatives it has on our health.
- [are you boarding the sleep train??](https://tiaslightham.com/are-you-boarding-the-sleep-train/) - to sleep train or not to sleep train...that is the question? many parents have a difficult time deciding whether or not to sleep train their little one. they ponder this question for days, weeks, months and in some cases years! they go back and forth between what method they want to try, the pros and cons of sleep training and whether or not they feel as though they can handle the battle. they often wonder whether or not they are capable of defeating this dreaded no sleep cycle. i am here to tell you that YOU are totally capable! with the right tools, knowledge and method, YOU will successfully sleep train you baby!!
- [make time for you know who....YOU!!!](https://tiaslightham.com/make-time-for-you-know-who-you/) - this is often easier said than done! trust me i know this first hand! i have a husband who is always at work, family who doesn't live here or who are not in the city very often, and therefore, it is I who pretty much does the majority of the grunt work with the kids!! don't get me wrong, i truly love my mommy job and i feel so fortunate that i get to spend my days with my sweet boys, but sometimes i feel i need just a little time for me. i don't mean a short afternoon out of the house or a quick pedicure, but rather some real adult mommy time. in theory, somewhere a plane can take me, with sun, reading, relaxing and of course some shopping! the reality is i am booked to do just this in the very near future....yikes and yay all at once!! i haven't been away at night from the boys for 2 years and because i am the one who normally does everything i am finding it a bit nerve wracking and hard to simply...let go! two words that i could practice a little bit more:)
- [sleepless nights : jack (5 1/2 months)](https://tiaslightham.com/sleepless-nights-jack-5-12-months/) - do you wonder if...you are ever going to get your little one to sleep all night? if he/she is ever going to take a nap longer than 45 minutes and not always need to be rocked to sleep? are you ever going to stop feeding in the night? am i ever going to get this kid on a schedule? these are some of the major concerns carolyn wanted help with when she contacted "mommy secrets." i sent carolyn my beginning questionnaire, which really helps me get a good idea of her current situation. we had a great phone consultation and i was 100% confident that she, like many others, would find success at the end of this process. carolyn was feeling a bit overwhelmed by the lack of schedule and that she never really knew when to put jack down for naps or bedtime. he was currently taking 3 naps on average, all very short, and going to bed between 8:30-9:00 pm. he was being rocked to sleep and during the night when he woke, anywhere from 1-3 times, carolyn was feeding him and he would then go back to sleep. sometimes in the early morning feed she would bring jack back to bed with her to nurse and co-sleep, just to catch a few more zzz's. does this sound familiar to any of you mommies?
- [catching your zzz's : jack (5 1/2 months) sleeps](https://tiaslightham.com/catching-your-zzzs-jack-5-12-months-sleeps/) - hi everyone!! so sorry it has been so long since my last post! we were away on a family vacation...a really good excuse in my opinion! :) that being said i am so happy to be back home and back blogging with you! during my time away i continued to work and sleep train many little ones! i wanted to give you the update for our little jack. sorry again for the delay in jack's progress report! jack took to sleep training very well, as all babies do if you stick to the plan! carolyn and her husband were very consistent and committed to the process and they saw amazing results in the first few days. after the first week they had jack sleeping all night on his own. he had learned to self-soothe and when he did wake in the night he would fuss himself back to sleep. they no longer had to go to him to soothe and feed. as the days went on, the wakings decreased and the little boy who was going to bed around 9 pm, was hitting the sheets around 7 or 7:30 pm and sleeping until 7:30 am! there are no more night feedings, rocking or co-sleeping in jack's house!
- [reel the fish back in!](https://tiaslightham.com/reel-the-fish-back-in/) - argh, argh, argh! sometimes parenting gives you a run for your money! when i say parenting, i mean that you actually have to parent. there is a big difference between being a parent and actual parenting. when you are just going through the motions day in and day out you are a parent. those who put in the actual time, effort, and attention your kids need are doing true parenting! this is the best way to raise happy, respectful, well-behaved kids!
- [teeny tiny green footprints!](https://tiaslightham.com/teeny-tiny-green-footprints/) - it's that time of year! that time of year where we all read books with our little ones and chat about the reason we wear green on saint patricks day! to avoid being pinched is reason enough to join in on the fun, but i find real joy in making any holiday a grand occasion
- [knowledge is power](https://tiaslightham.com/knowledge-is-power/) - i am constantly helping mothers who feel completely exhausted, overwhelmed, and hopeless when it comes to ever getting their babies to sleep. i love doing this for many reasons. i of the reasons is because it is so rewarding to help others have success! nothing feels better than hearing the sad, tired voice of an exasperated mother turn happy, rested and upbeat! along with this their babies are happier, more rested, and in turn, learning more throughout the day, helping them enjoy life to it's fullest and become all they can be!
- [sleepless nights : melanie (1 year)](https://tiaslightham.com/sleepless-nights-melanie-1-year/) - i have just recently finished helping a couple sleep train their young daughter melanie. melanie is 13 months and is not an a schedule, doesn't fall asleep unless she is rocked, naps a short period of around 45 minutes only on occasional days or if she is in the car, goes to bed around 9 pm and wakes throughout the night screaming. the only way for them to get her to stop screaming is to go to her, which ends up in rocking back to sleep or in the end co-sleeping until the morning. melanie's mom, anne marie is so exhausted and has hit the "wall" that i often speak about. she didn't want to hear melanie cry, but she knew she couldn't go on living this way. she was beyond tired, not enjoying her daughter, her husband and her were in separate bedrooms so one could sleep while the other dealt with. they were both extremely overwhelmed and felt that they were never going to live a 'normal' life! overall, life was not what they expected it would be with a baby.
- [catching your zzz's : melanie (1 year) sleeps!](https://tiaslightham.com/catching-your-zzzs-melanie-1-year-sleeps/) - as a child gets older it is harder for parents to grasp the courage to sleep train. by this point they are very aware of the bad habits that have been formed and they know that they need to do something in order to change their current sleep schedule. the hard part is they know there will be tears involved. infant tears are just as heartbreaking, but when an older baby/toddler is crying they are often crying out for "mommy" or "daddy." sometimes they stand up and scream for you to come to them. these acts, along with others, make it difficult for parents to stick to the process. where i am going with all of this is two-fold. one, is i completely understand how hard this can be. i have trained my own kids and it isn't easy. second, i am fully aware of the pros you will gain if you can just swallow your tears and struggle through your babies'. these pros definitely outweigh the cons. as much as you are worrying about the crying before you begin training, try and remind yourself that you are actually doing them a favour. by training them to sleep properly you are giving them a life-long tool and the opportunity to be happy during their days and learn to their maximum potential!
- [time to wake up...or is it??](https://tiaslightham.com/time-to-wake-up-or-is-it/) - unfortunately, for most families the kids tend to wake up early. this early wake up call is usually okay and totally doable, except for after those nights when you decided to go out and actually act like an adult!! along with adult fun, often comes complete exhaustion and sometimes you may be feeling just a bit under the weather, if you know what i mean!! you anticipate the early morning coming way too fast and the fear of it becomes so dreadful! it's just human nature to basically do anything to get just a little more sleep! they are pure survival tactics! the truth be told we came upon our survival tactic by total accident. truth be told, we haven't actually tried it because we don't have the heart. but, sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures and maybe just maybe one day we will pull this one out of our hat! so, here is what we plan to do in our house on these special nights, if we ever get the balls to actually do it!
- [a thanks to all of you!](https://tiaslightham.com/a-thanks-to-all-of-you/) - i just wanted to say a quick thank you to all my readers! i write for you and hope to in some way or another help you out in your parenthood struggles. lately, i have been receiving many comments directly on my posts, which i LOVE! i love connecting with my followers and hearing from
- [to scream or not to scream?](https://tiaslightham.com/to-scream-or-not-to-scream/) - how many of you have infants that scream for anything and everything they need or want? how many of you want to simply lock yourselves in the closet with some ear plugs and a bottle of wine, when it seems as though you just can't take even one more single scream? there are ways to help your little one be less frustrated, which is the key reason the majority of babies scream. i would scream too if i couldn't communicate my wants and needs. i guess we have to give them some credit for being so smart and screaming! they've figured out it is a sure way to get our attention and in turn get them what they want!
- [catching your zzz's : 6 month jake sleeps](https://tiaslightham.com/catching-your-zzzs-6-month-jake-sleeps/) - i have a preview for you about how jake's first 4 nights went with his sleep training. as you will see once your read, the beauty of this is, by night 2 there were no longer any night feeds and by night 4 trish didn't have to go in to help soothe at all! it is truly amazing how fast you can sleep train your little ones if you fully commit to the process!
- [what's worse...your kids' mealtimes or pulling teeth??](https://tiaslightham.com/whats-worse-your-kids-mealtimes-or-pulling-teeth/) - while feeding your little ones do you often feel as though having your teeth pulled, maybe even novocaine free, would be better, more enjoyable, and easier than trying to get them to eat? are you prying their mouths open to force feed, much like a dentist? if you're having trouble at meal time there are some things you can do from the beginning to try a make things a bit easier on everyone. of course, every baby/child is different. different tastes, more picky than others by nature, smaller appetites, and the list goes on. therefore, my suggestions are just suggestions to try and help you avoid some of these issues if at all possible.
- [talk, talk, and more talk!](https://tiaslightham.com/talk-talk-and-more-talk/) - i remember back when we first brought hudson, now 3 years old, home from the hospital. my husband looked and me and asked, "what do you think i should do with him?" he was so sincere, serious, and actually curious and what he should be doing to ensure the best outcome for hudson! my response was to talk, talk and then talk some more! i also told him to read as often as he could and to point to the words as he read.
- [sleepless nights : isabella (1 year)](https://tiaslightham.com/sleepless-nights-isabella-1-year/) - sleepless nights are one of those things that everybody hates!! the only thing worse than being disturbed in the night is being disturbed night after night, after night! the type of exhaustion that your body reaches is totally indescribable. it is so hard to live day to day and function when you feel this way. the feeling is easily described as a constant hangover! the unfortunate part is there is no alcohol involved!
- [catching your zzz's : 1 year isabella sleeps](https://tiaslightham.com/catching-your-zzzs-1-year-isabella-sleeps/) - the success and sleep that clients of mine find is what makes this such a rewarding service! i love to hear about the break through with their children and how they are finally learning to sleep properly! each family has a different experience, different time frame it takes to fully sleep train, and different battles along the way, but the beautiful thing is they all find sleep in the end! for erika and isabella, the road to sleep is different than that of a newborns. being 1 year and previously sleep trained as an infant, our goals were to get isabella sleeping well again. we needed to assist isabella in getting back on the sleep train that she so disruptively (in her parents' eyes) had fallen off! below is erika's update for how isabella is doing by the 3rd night. keep in mind during these 3 days we had many back and forth emails with suggestions for her to follow in order to make this process as smooth and easy as possible.
- [update #1 for sam (7 months)](https://tiaslightham.com/update-1-for-sam-7-months/) - well little sam is in the beginning stages of his sleep training. i gave sara some advice and suggested she begin the sleep training focusing on naps first. if you are asking if naps and bedtime go hand in hand, the answer is yes. although starting the sleep training process and teaching the self-soothing skills seems to be easier beginning with naps. one you are less tired during the day or it is much easier to distract yourself in the day time hours than during the night when all you want to do is sleep! also you can train the naps in shorter crying intervals which is often easier for most parents. now, this isn't the case for every family or child, but it is usually the best starting point and works 9 times out of 10!
- [catching your zzz's : 7 month sam sleeps](https://tiaslightham.com/catching-your-zzzs-7-month-sam-sleeps/) - JANUARY 15, 2012 sara’s Reply: "Hi! Thanks for checking in, I was sick with the stomach flu sorry for being MIA. Well we were making progress sam was in bed from 630-7 every night and he would sleep till about 330-430 then nurse then pretty much go back till 7. I also was putting him in drowsy awake he would cry and it would take us a few tries of soothing picking up but he would fall asleep on his own. He also is napping at least hour and half to 2 hours in AM and same in afternoon. thanks, sara"
- [do you live with a leak-aholic?](https://tiaslightham.com/do-you-live-with-a-leak-aholic/) - seems the majority of the moms i help have a similar complaint...leaky diapers. everyone hates the dreaded leaking diaper! whether it leaks and wakes up your baby/toddler in the middle of the night or you have to continually change clothes and bedding every morning, it all just sucks!! i have a couple tricks to help decrease your leaking diaper wake-up calls! now, it isn't full-proof, but i will say with my 2 boys, i haven't had more than 20 leaky diapers total over the past 3 years over night! if you are a victim leaky diapers than read on!
- [bottles are for babies, right?](https://tiaslightham.com/bottles-are-for-babies-right/) - seems as though many of the families i have been consulting with have loads of the same questions! which is why i posted previously about the leaky diaper dilemma. the fact many of the same issues confront me it can help you rest assured that you aren't the only one out there with any questions, issues, or concerns regarding your little ones. we all probably know that bottles are for babies, but somewhere along the line, life happens and we take a look around and either have toddlers with bottles or sometimes kids even older than this. this issue too, can be solved and i will post later about tactics to get rid of bottles for toddlers. when they are so attached and there seems no possible way to break them of this habit, i am telling you, there is!! today i'm helping you stop the bottle addiction before full-on withdrawals occur! i will help you and your baby say 'bye-bye' bottles and 'hello' sippy cups! the most beautiful thing about this process is it happens without tears and sadness for the comforting latex nipple??!! the trick with kids is to make habits disappear before the habit has really formed. that being said, by the time your little one is approaching their big 1st birthday you will have already been performing your magic! if your little one is around 6-10 months, than you are reading this at the perfect time! if you are beyond this point or already facing issues around getting rid of the bottle than read as well. i have loads of tricks to help you fight the bottle battle without a fight! don't hesitate to contact me on my discussion board or privately through my contact page.
- [catching your zzz's : 4 month shane sleeps](https://tiaslightham.com/catching-your-zzzs-4-month-shane-sleeps/) - yes everyone shane is sleeping all night long, just 4 nights later! he went from being rocked to sleep and waking every 2 hours just to be rocked to sleep again. shane definitely had some tears, but in the long run 4 nights, each of which got progressively better, isn't all that much time.
- [sleepless nights : sadie 1 year](https://tiaslightham.com/sleepless-nights-sadie-1-year/) - well here is another sleepless little one in here in toronto. i met laura and she mentioned to me that she had a 1 year old, sadie, whom was definitely sleepless! i offered to help her and through our email communications and laura's dedication and hard work, sadie is sleeping all night, every night! so to begin laura answered all the necessary questions so that i could give her proper advice for her situation. laura was very honest in her answers, as that is a key component to getting what you need out of this. i am not here to judge anything or anyone, i am only here to help. that being said, sadie was sleeping in her crib, but fighting bedtime with tantrums, etc until 11:00 pm. they also were starting bedtime routines around 8 or 9 pm and were doing bath every few nights, and doing part of the bedtime routine such as bottle and books in laura's room and then moving back to sadie's room to put her down. sadie also wanted many stuffed animals in her bed with her and sometimes laura was placing the ipad in on a soothing screen to try and calm sadie down. sadie was waking in the night and was occasionally being fed and other times laura was just soothing her back to sleep. she also wasn't napping properly and laura could tell that sadie was completely over tired. laura knew her little one wasn't acting properly due to her lack of sleep. she needed and wanted help immediately!
- [are you a victim of cat naps!!](https://tiaslightham.com/are-you-a-victim-of-cat-naps/) - does your baby wake up from his/her nap after just 20 minutes or 40 minutes? do you feel that you are a victim to your baby's cat naps? you don't know what to do because they won't take a proper nap? if you are answering yes to any or all of these questions than hopefully
- [your relationship post kids...or is there one??](https://tiaslightham.com/your-relationship-post-kids-or-is-there-one/) - people always tell you before you have kids that "your relationship will change, so you better enjoy each other now." or you'll get, "you guys are never going to be able to do that again!" where there is definitely truth in both of these statements and probably some truth in all the statements you may have heard, the thing to remember is it's only SOME truth. yes, your relationship does change post kids, but this is to be expected. it is no longer just you and your better half, in my case;) you now have other people you are responsible for and it's no longer just each other. although things will change it doesn't have to be for the worse. you can still do things as a couple, enjoy one another, have time alone without the kiddos and still feel rested enough to actually have fun while doing them!
- [been MIA, but here's why!!](https://tiaslightham.com/been-mia-but-heres-why/) - sorry i haven't had a post in a few days, i've been super busy helping many moms sleep train their little ones! it's very exciting to see the major transformations in their sleep. therefore in this post you will find how i am going to document the stories so you can follow along and learn as we go!
- [sleepless nights : shane 4 months](https://tiaslightham.com/sleepless-nights-shane-4-months/) - it's just one of those things when you begin to sleep train your little ones that support from others always helps. melissa contaced me through my "request a sleep consult" link on my blog. we were in touch via email and then set up a phone consultation. we spent an hour discussing their current nap and bedtime routines and what she felt were shane's sleep issues. melissa informed me that currently shane needed to be rocked and laid down asleep. he was waking around every two hours, but she was only feeding him one of those wakings. unfortunately, when he woke he was looking for either her or her husband, paul, to come to him in the night and rock him back to sleep. shane doens't know how to fall alseep unassisted at this point, so this is where i come in! melissa was also concerned because he was still being swaddled and needed a soother. as for shane's nap schedule. he again was being rocked to sleep, swaddled, and soother, but would only sleep a maximum of 45 minutes per nap. if at the 45 minute mark she went to him and rocked him back to sleep, sometimes he would sleep more. melissa also mentioned that if she brought him downstairs to the couch with her, he would take a really long nap being held! who wouldn't right? it's awesome to snuggle and sleep, but it's time we get little shane to go to sleep unassisted, unswaddled, and soother free!
- [well behaved kids isn't luck...it's parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/well-behaved-kids-isnt-luck-its-parenting/) - i go to bed each night thinking how truly amazing my kids are, how incredible our day was together, and how much fun it is to be with them. like i said in the past, sure we have our moments, but in all honestly they are few and far between. my mom used to tell me when hudson was younger that he was going to flip a switch and not always be so good, but so far he has proven her wrong. it's also like i mentioned before in regards to my teaching days and being told that i was always getting the good class. NONE of this is true. my students and now my kids are well behaved because i take tons and tons of time to teach them my expectations. people are always shocked that hudson, at 2 years old, asks without prompt if he can please be excused from the table. you, too can have this, but not without hard work. it takes lots of love, time, and commitment to raise happy and respectful kids. i don't think you can give them anything better than these characteristics and values.
- [oh, the joys of travel!!](https://tiaslightham.com/oh-the-joys-of-travel/) - do you travel with your little ones? do you have trouble with adjusting them to different time zones? settling in at night in a new place? deal with night wakings when you are in a new environment? if you answered yes to any or all of the above questions than this blog is for you!! i travel lots with my kids because i am from the united states and we live in canada. that being said we go as a family two times a year. i wish i could say it was a short jaunt just from vancouver to portland, but unfortunately my husband happened to be from toronto. therefore it is a long haul from east to west coast, which makes for not only a long, long day of travel, but also the issue of time change. travel as adults without kids can make for a long day and tiresome, but at the same time a joy to just sit back relax, read trash magazines, sip a latte, watch a movie, maybe even sleep! all things you don't get to do much of with little ones onboard with you! rather you don't read at all, you chug or spill most of your latte, don't watch the tv and you may get the opportunity to drift off for a short cat nap if your infants/toddlers happen to sleep! two totally opposite scenarios, but i guess we all knew this before we had kids!
- [toddler terrors happen to everyone...it's how you deal with them that matters!](https://tiaslightham.com/toddler-terrors-happen-to-everyone-its-how-you-deal-with-them-that-matters/) - today was one of those mornings where i wanted to lock my toddler in his room and leave him there. in fact he was probably safer in there, than out here with me!! argh!! sometimes they know exactly how to push you to the very edge and when they get you there they somehow know it. they then back off and you of course have a sense of guilt from having to discipline them.
- [tips for in the hospital and when you first go home](https://tiaslightham.com/tips-for-in-the-hospital-and-when-you-first-go-home/) - there are some things that i have done with my first and modified even more with my second that have seemed to really work for me. i find that by doing the things i'm going to chat about, it made life much easier living with a newborn and helped to create some good habits from the get go. having a newborn, especially if it's your first time, isn't always what you expect it to be. everyone always said to me that they can't prepare you for how a baby/child will change your life....well, isn't that the truth! you seriously don't know until you are in the situation. that being said kids do change your life for the better! they are little miracles and i never could have imagined how truly obsessed i would have been with my kids!
- [follow your gut!!](https://tiaslightham.com/follow-your-gut/) - i can't emphasize this enough.....always, always, always follow your gut! like i said before, you know your kids better than anyone else and if something feels off, go with your gut. whether you feel like they aren't feeling well, a situation doesn't seem right, etc. go with your gut!! this topic is on the forefront
- [early bedtime = happy babies and kids](https://tiaslightham.com/early-bedtime-happy-babies-and-kids/) - people often think i am completely nuts when i tell them what time my kids go to bed. hudson, my almost 3 year old, will occasionally nap and if so he goes to bed a bit later, but still fairly early in the eyes of most. for example last night, both kids were in a bed and asleep in a matter of minutes by 5:45pm!! this is a little bit of heaven for me since my husband works late. this gives me some time to myself!! something we don't often get when you are spending your time raising little ones. on a day when hudson has a nap he will be in bed and lights out by 6:30 and asleep no later than 7pm.
- [good morning bloody diaper rash and nasty cough...](https://tiaslightham.com/good-morning-bloody-diaper-rash-and-nasty-cough/) - well it was just one of those days....woke up to hudson's nasty cough which, of course, kept him from napping properly. which in turn made my day very long. on top of the cough, baby beckett woke up with a bloody diaper rash! i don't mean red and rashy, i mean sores and blood! it was the saddest thing i have ever seen and it made me sick to my stomach to see my sweet little man in this condition. but, he of course, like always was smiling and giggling. he is truly the happiest baby and not by pure fluke, but because he is WELL RESTED!! mommy secret of the day; help your baby learn how to sleep and in return it will help you have a very happy baby, who will only fuss when something is truly wrong! although, i am expecting beckett to fuss it up here in the next few days, as a few of his teeth are about to come through and im sure his bum has to be bugging him.
- [mommy secret revealed: are you still feeding in the night and want to stop??](https://tiaslightham.com/mommy-secret-revealed-are-you-still-feeding-in-the-night-and-want-to-stop/) - the most amazing feeling is when you wake up in the morning and realize you haven't been up in the night to feed! you wonder....is he/she okay? is this a complete fluke? will this beautiful thing never happen again? there is often a certain level of anxiety that mom's have when they go to bed, because they are already wondering when they are going to be woken up to feed. i hate this and therefore i try and get rid of the night feedings as soon as possible! some mom's say they don't mind getting up in the night....i don't buy this, not for a second!!
- [case study: less than 24 hours of sleep training & 4 month jacob sleeps all night](https://tiaslightham.com/case-study-less-than-24-hours-of-sleep-training-4-month-jacob-sleeps-all-night/) - sorry i haven't made a post in a few days i have been busy with my own little monsters and helping jenny, a 30-something mom from oregon sleep train her 4 month boy, jacob. jacob is her second baby and she has admitted to making the same mistakes with him as she did with her first. we connected through facebook and spoke via email and 1 phone conversation last week. at the time jacob was sick and i advised her to wait until he was better, as i ALWAYS go to a baby when they aren't feeling well. i may be harsh and firm, but i'm not just plain old mean! during our 20 minute phone conversation she explained to be that jacob was taking 20 minute cat naps throughout the day, was being put down asleep after nursing for each and every sleep, and during the night was waking on average every 2 hours. she waited until he was feeling better, which was yesterday and decided that she had hit her breaking point and the sleep training had to be done. the night before jacob was up 5 times between midnight and 5am. this i have to say is a sure sign that jacob needs help. he needs his sleep and jenny needs hers. sleep training him will be a win-win situation. so lets begin....
- [vino anyone??!!](https://tiaslightham.com/vino-anyone/) - the biggest and most important mommy secret of all......you absolutely cannot survive without red wine!! it's saturday night, the boys are in bed, beckett asleep and hudson my 2 1/2 year old, chatting away upstairs, and my husband cooking dinner tonight!! a little bit of heaven!
- [brawling it out with a 2 year old!!!](https://tiaslightham.com/brawling-it-out-with-a-2-year-old/) - well, they may be smaller than you, but lets face it they are so much smarter than you! now the thing is we can't let them think for a second that we know that. we have to make it clear that we are the big men on campus and what we say goes. usually easier said than done. this was the case for us tonight....bath time! always such an enjoyable time for us except for on the nights when my 2 1/2 year old, hudson, has had nursery school, lunch program, followed by french. a long day, with no nap, equals disaster most the time! he begged me to do french and not only did he get it, but i got a boy who now doesn't need a nap most days, yikes!! the whole day, no breaks, not something i was quite prepared for. anyhow, back to the story. i always say one of the biggest, most important mommy secrets of all time is STICK TO YOUR GROUND!!! be firm, don't yell. yelling means you've already lost the battle. be sure you are being fair and stick to what you say. don't go back. once you do, on anything, even something as small as giving them the one candy you said no to, to begin with, than you've lost control. they are in charge and getting back in charge is not the easiest thing to accomplish!
- [How I got here...](https://tiaslightham.com/how-i-got-here/) - it's hard to even know where to begin but i guess i'll just start at the beginning. i had hudson january 24, 2009 and he was my first. needless to say i was going into this blindly besides reading a book on sleep training, what to expect when you're expecting and taking my pre-natal course at the hospital. all of these things help in some way or another i'm sure but, lets face it...bringing home the baby is an entirely different entity.
- [is your baby sleeping through the night??](https://tiaslightham.com/is-your-baby-sleeping-through-the-night/) - this, i have to say, is the million dollar question between moms! this is the ultimate achievement....the jackpot! if your baby is sleeping through the night i'd love to hear your secrets as well. my two boys sleep very well but i did it differently for both, since the first was sort of a learning curve....i now have my own mommy secrets to help you get your babies to sleep through the night and nap that have worked for me and others!
- [night 2 of sleep training for 10 week hudson](https://tiaslightham.com/night-2-of-sleep-training-for-10-week-hudson/) - hi again! it's been a busy past few days sorry it's taken me so long to get back to my story! i'm sure you all know how it is with kiddos....it's monday and before you know it the weekend has come and gone and it's monday again!
- [no bad kids, just bad parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/no-bad-kids-just-bad-parenting/) - sound like a harsh title, but sometimes the truth isn't sugar coated! something came up in conversation the other day that made me think about an important post....tempermant of your babies. tempermant and the way your babies and children act, in my opinion, have to do with the type of environment and home they are raised in. children are a product of their environment, whether it's at home or their classroom at school. i was a kindergarten teacher in the states and every year was told by other teachers that i always got the so called "good kids." this always used to upset me because when they came to me on day one they did not act the way i helped mold them to. they all had to learn to listen, follow rules, learn their boundaries, etc. the emphasis placed on class management and establishing the classroom environment that i felt was conducive for learning took a lot of time,patience and hard work. i mean a lot of hard work. i won't go into how i did this or the methods of my approach right now, because i want to chat about helping create an environment in your home that molds a baby/child with a good tempermant.
- [is your perfect sleeper not sleeping so perfectly??](https://tiaslightham.com/is-your-perfect-sleeper-not-sleeping-so-perfectly/) - often our perfect sleepers will not sleep so perfectly! the sudden change in sleep habits seem baffling, but there are lots of legitimate reasons to why this happens. click the link to see the full article or just preview it below to learn about some reasons why this may happen to you! http://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/teach-baby-to-sleep-through-the-night/ The
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- [tough love](https://tiaslightham.com/tough-love/) - there is a very fine line between nice and too nice. between tough and too tough. between firm and too firm. these fine lines are lines you, as parents, have to distinguish and stick to through trial and error. ultimately you have to parent how you feel is right. discipline in ways you feel are logical and fair. in ways that work for you and your family. no one, me included, can tell you how to parent. nor, should anyone tell you how to parent. this is your job! they are your kids, your responsibility and it is all up to you how you decide to take this journey.
- [Guest Blogger : Katie Moore](https://tiaslightham.com/guest-blogger-katie-moore/) - katie moore recently contacted me to chat about something we both have in common and feel strongly about...exercise and pregnancy go hand in hand! we both feel extremely strong in our belief that healthy pregnancies involve physical activity to your mind and body! stress is something that everyone has. it is a part of life, but how we deal with the our stress is the important factor. too much stress can be harmful to you and your unborn baby. please read the article below by guest author, katie moore. i hope you enjoy her abundant information and find it helpful and useful to you and/or someone you may know!
- [sleepless nights : ryan (5 months)](https://tiaslightham.com/sleepless-nights-ryan-5-months/) - it's been quite some time since i've blogged about a clients' sleep training journey. i thought it was well overdue and one of my past clients had a situation that i'm felt many of you sleepless moms may be able to relate to. i hope by sharing diana's story you will find comfort in knowing you aren't alone and that you too, will find sleep. whether through information via this blog post or by taking the next of contacting mommy secrets directly today to request your own sleep consult
- [catching your zzz's : ryan (5 months) sleeps](https://tiaslightham.com/catching-your-zzzs-ryan-5-months-sleeps/) - well, i'm back to give you the final synopses of diana and ryan's sleep training. for all my followers, readers, and anyone else who happens to stop by i think you will be thrilled to know that once again mommy secrets' sleep training has been a success. i'm happy to say that ryan is no longer feeding in the night, naps 2 solid naps each day in his crib, without motion. no more car naps, buggy naps and no more 3rd cat nap in the evening. i love when my clients see results and have a sleeping baby!
- [are you truly connected with your kids?](https://tiaslightham.com/are-you-truly-connected-with-your-kids/) - this seems an easy question to answer if you simply jump the gun. the answer becomes much more difficult and complex if you seriously take the time to think about what this loaded question really implies. just like teaching, when it comes to parenting you can't simply go through the motions day in and day out. well, let me rephrase that...yes you can go day to day, half assing your job and doing the bare minimum to get through each day and teachers and parents all around the world do this. the sad part is the results of this type of teaching/parenting are shown directly in their students and/or kids. as a past teacher, and now a parent, i get it. we all have our days where you know you've done your best if your kids are fed, kept safe, and put to bed. we are all human and have bad days. days we can't perform our jobs at our peak performance. occasionally we all feel like this. the problem doesn't arise for those teachers or parents whom have a bad day here and there. the problem occurs for those who live their life in this manner each and every day. they parent just to make it through the day. they aren't emotionally invested in their kids. what many may not know is the direct results of your parenting are reflected in your children today and for the rest of their lives. you may notice that your child misbehaves more than the next. that your child seems angry or filled with anxiety. or maybe you haven't taken a step back to even reflect on the behaviour of your child. if you are finding this article to ring true for you or others around you that you know, than maybe now is the time to take the time to really think about and reflect on this question. what does creating a secure-attached relationship really mean?? are you truly connected with your kids??
- [pregnancy and exercise are like ketchup and mustard](https://tiaslightham.com/pregnancy-and-exercise-are-like-ketchup-and-mustard/) - pregnancy and exercise are like ketchup and mustard...you just can't have one without the other! i truly believe from the research i have read and from my own personal experience that exercise and pregnancy go hand in hand. they are the yin and the yang. you can't have one without the other, or rather you can, but shouldn't have one without the other. of course the variation in exercises will most definitely vary from one women to the next, but the fact is that each and every pregnant lady should do some form of exercise. not only for themselves; to make you feel better, maintain your strength during pregnancy and labour, increase your recovery time, along with many more positives. but, you should also exercise to help the health of your unborn child. research shows that exercise during your pregnancy can benefit your baby both in heart and overall health. in a previous blog post titled, "exercise your mind, body and soul for a healthy you and baby" i talk about many of the health benefits that exercising during pregancy will give you and your baby! check it out and i'm sure you will agree (whether you want to exercise or not) that you should get up off your tushy and start walking today!
- [exercise your mind, body and soul for a healthy you and baby!](https://tiaslightham.com/exercise-your-mind-body-and-soul-for-a-healthy-you-and-baby/) - exercise is a huge part of my life and has been for many years. without it, i definitely wouldn't be a 'sane' mommy! exercise gets me through my day, feeling as though i have done something for myself. in order for me to be the best mom, wife, friend, sister and any other hat i may wear...i have to exercise. without exercise it's safe to say i might just be plain old mean! it gives me a chance to clear my head, get my endorphins going, helps me to look and feel my best, which is not only good for me, but also my marriage! if you know what i mean..wink, wink!!!
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- [awake with the stars](https://tiaslightham.com/awake-with-the-stars/) - are you awake with the stars? if you are i feel your pain! it is dreadful..nothing worse! when your toddler wakes too early and expects you to get up with them, it literally feels like the end of the world. it's still dark and they are jumping up and down in their crib, singing loudly, feeling as though you should be up if they are up. unfortunately they don't understand why it isn't time to get up.
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- [behaviour](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/behaviour/)
- [family](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/family/)
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- [listen](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/listen/)
- [safe](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/safe/)
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- [grow](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/grow/)
- [bond](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/bond/)
- [Bullying](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/bullying/)
- [parents](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parents/)
- [anti-violence](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/anti-violence/)
- [60 Minutes](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/60-minutes/)
- [Global News](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/global-news/)
- [Sleep Training](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sleep-training/)
- [Infant Sleep Training](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/infant-sleep-training/)
- [Sleep Methods](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sleep-methods/)
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- [Reflection](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/reflection/)
- [Balance](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/balance/)
- [Life Lessons](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/life-lessons/)
- [Change](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/change/)
- [Mothers](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/mothers/)
- [Expert Interviews](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/expert-interviews/)
- [K+ Organics](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/k-organics/)
- [Sports Drinks](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sports-drinks/)
- [Health](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/health/)
- [Nutrition](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/nutrition/)
- [Performance](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/performance/)
- [sibling rivalry](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sibling-rivalry/)
- [siblings](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/siblings/)
- [discipline](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/discipline/)
- [positive solutions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/positive-solutions/)
- [stop fighting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/stop-fighting/)
- [sleep solutions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sleep-solutions/)
- [bedtime](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/bedtime/)
- [bedtime stalling](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/bedtime-stalling/)
- [Punishment](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/punishment/)
- [Teach](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/teach/)
- [biting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/biting/)
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- [aggressive](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/aggressive/)
- [toddler](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toddler/)
- [child](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child/)
- [problems](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/problems/)
- [Transitions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/transitions/)
- [Children](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/children/)
- [tools](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/tools/)
- [solutions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/solutions/)
- [tantrums](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/tantrums/)
- [Expert Interview](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/expert-interview/)
- [Ashley Major](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/ashley-major/)
- [ADHD](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/adhd/)
- [Child Behavior](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-behavior/)
- [children behaviour](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/children-behaviour/)
- [parenting tools](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-tools/)
- [sleep deprivation](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sleep-deprivation/)
- [nap training](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/nap-training/)
- [infants](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/infants/)
- [tired](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/tired/)
- [exhausted](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/exhausted/)
- [back to school](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/back-to-school/)
- [routines](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/routines/)
- [scream free parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/scream-free-parenting/)
- [reaction free parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/reaction-free-parenting/)
- [calm parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/calm-parenting/)
- [power struggles](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/power-struggles/)
- [healthy meals](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/healthy-meals/)
- [exercise](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/exercise/)
- [organization](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/organization/)
- [You've Got This Mama](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/youve-got-this-mama/)
- [parenting with balance](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-with-balance/)
- [kids emotions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-emotions/)
- [failure](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/failure/)
- [success](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/success/)
- [kids not listening](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-not-listening/)
- [frustrated kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/frustrated-kids/)
- [frustrated parents](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/frustrated-parents/)
- [hard job](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/hard-job/)
- [video games](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/video-games/)
- [screen time](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/screen-time/)
- [child behaviour](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-behaviour/)
- [setting limits](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/setting-limits/)
- [boundaries](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/boundaries/)
- [positive parenting solutions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/positive-parenting-solutions/)
- [struggle free parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/struggle-free-parenting/)
- [poor behavior](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/poor-behavior/)
- [parent](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parent/)
- [Tia Slightham -Parenting Solutions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/tia-slightham-parenting-solutions/)
- [positive discipline](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/positive-discipline/)
- [testimonials](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/testimonials/)
- [newborn sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/newborn-sleep/)
- [newborn sleep training](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/newborn-sleep-training/)
- [fussy baby](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/fussy-baby/)
- [get your newborn to sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/get-your-newborn-to-sleep/)
- [sleep help](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sleep-help/)
- [whining](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/whining/)
- [forgetful child](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/forgetful-child/)
- [frustrated with your kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/frustrated-with-your-kids/)
- [help my child remember](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/help-my-child-remember/)
- [meltdowns](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/meltdowns/)
- [stop tantrums](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/stop-tantrums/)
- [stop yelling](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/stop-yelling/)
- [parenting help](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-help/)
- [children mealtimes](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/children-mealtimes/)
- [child eating](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-eating/)
- [child nutrition](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-nutrition/)
- [child health](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-health/)
- [toddler tantrums](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toddler-tantrums/)
- [mealtime behavior](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/mealtime-behavior/)
- [manners](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/manners/)
- [nurtrition](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/nurtrition/)
- [morning routines](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/morning-routines/)
- [morning chaos](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/morning-chaos/)
- [frustrated by kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/frustrated-by-kids/)
- [frustrated by parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/frustrated-by-parenting/)
- [overwhelmed](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/overwhelmed/)
- [natural consequences](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/natural-consequences/)
- [teach your kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/teach-your-kids/)
- [positive lessons](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/positive-lessons/)
- [make parenting easy](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/make-parenting-easy/)
- [difficult job](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/difficult-job/)
- [daily parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/daily-parenting/)
- [motherhood](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/motherhood/)
- [Consequences](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/consequences/)
- [Responsibilities](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/responsibilities/)
- [kids sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-sleep/)
- [sleep and behavior](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sleep-and-behavior/)
- [toddler sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toddler-sleep/)
- [child sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-sleep/)
- [infant sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/infant-sleep/)
- [boudnaries](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/boudnaries/)
- [kids pushing boundaries](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-pushing-boundaries/)
- [toddler bedtime](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toddler-bedtime/)
- [daylight savings](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/daylight-savings/)
- [transition to daylight savings](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/transition-to-daylight-savings/)
- [time change](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/time-change/)
- [halloween candy](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/halloween-candy/)
- [kids and candy](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-and-candy/)
- [trick or treating](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/trick-or-treating/)
- [kids and halloween](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-and-halloween/)
- [feelings](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/feelings/)
- [child feelings](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-feelings/)
- [child emotions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-emotions/)
- [validation](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/validation/)
- [validating feelings](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/validating-feelings/)
- [kids and parents](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-and-parents/)
- [managing emotions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/managing-emotions/)
- [self-regulation](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/self-regulation/)
- [kids acting up](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-acting-up/)
- [kids not behaving](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-not-behaving/)
- [parenting approach](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-approach/)
- [parenting guides](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-guides/)
- [black friday sale](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/black-friday-sale/)
- [black friday](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/black-friday/)
- [kids cooperating](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-cooperating/)
- [kids listening](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-listening/)
- [holiday season](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/holiday-season/)
- [kids and holidays](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-and-holidays/)
- [family and holiday](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/family-and-holiday/)
- [big kid bed](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/big-kid-bed/)
- [battle free bedtimes](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/battle-free-bedtimes/)
- [teach your kids to sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/teach-your-kids-to-sleep/)
- [tear free sleep solutions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/tear-free-sleep-solutions/)
- [online sleep training course](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/online-sleep-training-course/)
- [new years resolutions](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/new-years-resolutions/)
- [parenting goals](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-goals/)
- [2020](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/2020/)
- [effective parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/effective-parenting/)
- [effective parents](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/effective-parents/)
- [parenting tips](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-tips/)
- [bedtime battles](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/bedtime-battles/)
- [kids bedtime](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-bedtime/)
- [teaching kids to sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/teaching-kids-to-sleep/)
- [bedtime routines](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/bedtime-routines/)
- [bedtime chart](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/bedtime-chart/)
- [early bedtimes](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/early-bedtimes/)
- [sleeping](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sleeping/)
- [kids sleeping](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-sleeping/)
- [kids not sleeping](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-not-sleeping/)
- [helping kids sleep](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/helping-kids-sleep/)
- [teaching kids to stay in bed](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/teaching-kids-to-stay-in-bed/)
- [parent coach](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parent-coach/)
- [parenting coach](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-coach/)
- [toddlers](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toddlers/)
- [toddler behavior](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toddler-behavior/)
- [tantrum strategies](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/tantrum-strategies/)
- [parenting toddlers](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-toddlers/)
- [parenting help for toddlers](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-help-for-toddlers/)
- [toddler sleep alone](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toddler-sleep-alone/)
- [toddler sleep help](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toddler-sleep-help/)
- [child bedtime routines](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-bedtime-routines/)
- [sleep coaching](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/sleep-coaching/)
- [the military wife and mom](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/the-military-wife-and-mom/)
- [children's books](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/childrens-books/)
- [books](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/books/)
- [reading](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/reading/)
- [children's book corner](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/childrens-book-corner/)
- [what to say to your kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/what-to-say-to-your-kids/)
- [consequences for kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/consequences-for-kids/)
- [logical consequences](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/logical-consequences/)
- [parenthood](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenthood/)
- [raising kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/raising-kids/)
- [covid](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/covid/)
- [covid isolation](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/covid-isolation/)
- [coronavirus](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/coronavirus/)
- [mom needs a break](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/mom-needs-a-break/)
- [kids home 24/7](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-home-24-7/)
- [need a break from kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/need-a-break-from-kids/)
- [parenting strategies](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-strategies/)
- [toronto parenting coach](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toronto-parenting-coach/)
- [tia parenting coach](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/tia-parenting-coach/)
- [child development](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-development/)
- [when can my child do](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/when-can-my-child-do/)
- [how old does my child have to be to do](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/how-old-does-my-child-have-to-be-to-do/)
- [child chores](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-chores/)
- [child independence](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-independence/)
- [failing parent](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/failing-parent/)
- [failing mother](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/failing-mother/)
- [failing](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/failing/)
- [parenting challenges](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parenting-challenges/)
- [how to be a better parent](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/how-to-be-a-better-parent/)
- [toronto mom](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/toronto-mom/)
- [time-out](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/time-out/)
- [kids time-outs](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-time-outs/)
- [teaching lessons](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/teaching-lessons/)
- [stopping a child behavior](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/stopping-a-child-behavior/)
- [no listening](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/no-listening/)
- [why don't kids listen](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/why-dont-kids-listen/)
- [how to get my kids to listen](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/how-to-get-my-kids-to-listen/)
- [fatherhood](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/fatherhood/)
- [why is parenting so hard](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/why-is-parenting-so-hard/)
- [how to talk to kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/how-to-talk-to-kids/)
- [helping kids with trauma](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/helping-kids-with-trauma/)
- [helping kids with tragedy](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/helping-kids-with-tragedy/)
- [kids and anxiety](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-and-anxiety/)
- [kids and worry](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-and-worry/)
- [kids and communication](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-and-communication/)
- [helping kids manage stress](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/helping-kids-manage-stress/)
- [get kids to help out around the house](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/get-kids-to-help-out-around-the-house/)
- [kids and chores](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-and-chores/)
- [chores](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/chores/)
- [independant kids](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/independant-kids/)
- [kids not cooperating](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-not-cooperating/)
- [kids helping](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/kids-helping/)
- [chore charts](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/chore-charts/)
- [misbehavior](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/misbehavior/)
- [reasons kids misbehave](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/reasons-kids-misbehave/)
- [help your child behave](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/help-your-child-behave/)
- [child behavior development](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/child-behavior-development/)
- [age appropriate behavior](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/age-appropriate-behavior/)
- [limits](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/limits/)
- [fair boundaries](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/fair-boundaries/)
- [saying no](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/saying-no/)
- [tips](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/tips/)
- [positive parenting](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/positive-parenting/)
- [parent support](https://tiaslightham.com/tag/parent-support/)

## TVO Tags

- [workshop](https://tiaslightham.com/tvo_tags/workshop/)
- [Parenting With Purpose Method](https://tiaslightham.com/tvo_tags/parenting-with-purpose-method/)